If your child gets invited to a bar mitzvah, do parents attend?

[Anonymous]

My 12yo was invited to a bar mitzvah. There is a ceremony in the morning and a reception in the evening.

Is it appropriate for an adult to attend the ceremony with child?

I’m assuming I should drop off my child for the evening party and not stay.

I plan to give a $108 gift.

[Anonymous]

Depends. My dc was invited to two last year. One invited specified that the whole family was invited, the other invited just my child.

For the one where the whole family was invited, I went with my dc to the morning service but dropped off for the evening party.

[Anonymous]

What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

[Anonymous]

Unless the invitation says otherwise, the ceremony is part of a Shabbat morning service open to anyone. You can attend with your child or drop them off. If the invitation doesn't say what time that will end, you can ask the parents when to pick up.

The party invitation is for your 12yo only if only their name was on the invitation. If the invitation said "Larlo
Larlofsson and Family" or "The Larlofsson Family" then you are invited too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

The invite is addressed to my child only. I don’t know the parents at all. I may have met them once last year.

[Anonymous]

Only if the parents were invited. Whose name is on the invitation envelope?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

The invite is addressed to my child only. I don’t know the parents at all. I may have met them once last year.

You’re welcome to go to the service, only your child s invited to the party.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

The invite is addressed to my child only. I don’t know the parents at all. I may have met them once last year.

You’re welcome to go to the service, only your child s invited to the party.

This. Many parents are happy to have other parents at the ceremony but I've personally not heard of anyone going if they are not close to the family. DD attended about 12 last year and we only went once to the ceremony but we have known the child and the family forever so he's more like a brother than just another friend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

The invite is addressed to my child only. I don’t know the parents at all. I may have met them once last year.

You’re welcome to go to the service, only your child s invited to the party.

This. Many parents are happy to have other parents at the ceremony but I've personally not heard of anyone going if they are not close to the family. DD attended about 12 last year and we only went once to the ceremony but we have known the child and the family forever so he's more like a brother than just another friend.

Are you saying not close friends usually don’t go to the ceremony at all?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

The invite is addressed to my child only. I don’t know the parents at all. I may have met them once last year.

You’re welcome to go to the service, only your child s invited to the party.

Yes, anyone can show up at temple for a Shabbat service, but just be prepared that your son will want to go sit with his friends, not you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

The invite is addressed to my child only. I don’t know the parents at all. I may have met them once last year.

You’re welcome to go to the service, only your child s invited to the party.

This. Many parents are happy to have other parents at the ceremony but I've personally not heard of anyone going if they are not close to the family. DD attended about 12 last year and we only went once to the ceremony but we have known the child and the family forever so he's more like a brother than just another friend.

Are you saying not close friends usually don’t go to the ceremony at all?

Usually not but in general, anyone who wanted to attend would be free to do so, but no expectation.

[Anonymous]

The birthday person's parents will let you know if adults are invited to any part of the celebration. If they haven't told you directly, than you can still ask.

If the parents have been friends, it's very likely the parents are invited. If you have to ask, then, you should confirm so they can get a headcount on the amount of food to order.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does the invite say?

At my synagogue the service is open to anyone, so I would think even if your kid was only invited, you could go to the service if you want.

The invite is addressed to my child only. I don’t know the parents at all. I may have met them once last year.

You’re welcome to go to the service, only your child s invited to the party.

This. Many parents are happy to have other parents at the ceremony but I've personally not heard of anyone going if they are not close to the family. DD attended about 12 last year and we only went once to the ceremony but we have known the child and the family forever so he's more like a brother than just another friend.

Are you saying not close friends usually don’t go to the ceremony at all?

If you're invited to the party, you should go to the ceremony as well.
Idk if PP is saying if the parent is not invited to the party, they attended the ceremony only for a good friend or what. Or if not invited to party, only attended ceremony of good friend. I am really not sure what PP is saying but I don't think it is that close friends don't go to the ceremony, if they're attending the party.

[Anonymous]

No one will turn you away. Are you going because you’re curious? You will be welcome, although it’s not common for parents to attend if they don’t know the child.

Also, to add, your kid will likely want to sit wit their friends, not you.

[Anonymous]

Look at the envelope. It will tell you who is invited by who it is addressed to. That said, all are welcome to the service and if you want to go with your child there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But don't freak out when he/she wants to sit with their friends because usually all the kids like to glom together.