If your spouse did this, would you be happy or no?

[Anonymous]

Invited your ILs to stay for the weekend 'so that you could go out for dinner for your anniversary?' And did not ask you.

[Anonymous]

Um HELL NO.

I would tell him I’m not going. I’m not entertaining my ILs for the weekend for a few measly hours at a restaurant. Non-starter. Nope. Nothing would kill the mood more. Gross.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be irritated at the idea.
I would be irritated at him doing it without consulting

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't love him doing this without asking, but assuming that ILs are in good enough health to watch the kids for that long I would turn our anniversary celebration into a weekend away instead of dinner. Lemonade out of lemons, etc.

Any chance this is his actual plan and he's surprising you with something nice?

[Anonymous]

Like, the in-laws will babysit so he and I can go out for our anniversary? Or the in-laws will come out WITH us for an anniversary dinner for a party of four?

[Anonymous]

Thought was probably in right place but should have run it by you first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Invited your ILs to stay for the weekend 'so that you could go out for dinner for your anniversary?' And did not ask you.

As long as they aren't in my way or ruining my other plans and I don't have to entertain or 'host', it would be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't love him doing this without asking, but assuming that ILs are in good enough health to watch the kids for that long I would turn our anniversary celebration into a weekend away instead of dinner. Lemonade out of lemons, etc.

Any chance this is his actual plan and he's surprising you with something nice?

oh no. i'm sure we're going for dinner. but we could go for dinner and get a babysitter, no need to have weekend guests to facilitate a dinner.

[Anonymous]

It would be fine, unless you had said clearly beforehand that you did not like surprises, or there was some known bad blood, or the kids had known issues when cared for by grandparents, or any other known issues.

I have anxiety and HATE surprises. Some of them are delightful, but I want to avoid the bad ones. So my parents and spouse know not to surprise me like this, because I have verbalized it in so many words, many times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Invited your ILs to stay for the weekend 'so that you could go out for dinner for your anniversary?' And did not ask you.

As long as they aren't in my way or ruining my other plans and I don't have to entertain or 'host', it would be fine.

how would you have guests who would do none of these things? unless GIANT home and staff.

[Anonymous]

Go away for the weekend!

[Anonymous]

I would actually be thrilled. My ILs are great with the kids and it would give me an excuse to get a house cleaner.

[Anonymous]

I would be fine with it

[Anonymous]

You tell him to not do this again. You accept the situation with grace and assume the best of intentions, for this one time

[Anonymous]

I would be happy that he put some thought into it, and it would be nice for my kids to see our anniversary as a kind of family celebration.