Say something or let it go?

[Anonymous]

I’m annoyed.

A month ago I was hanging out with a friend who mentioned wanting to go to a (ticketed) event, and asked if I’d be interested. I was and said I’d check with my husband. He was interested too.

About two weeks ago my friend brought up the event again and nailed down a day to attend (both of our families). I was excited and bought the tickets for the event.

Early last week I checked in with my friend and said “good to go for the event?” And she confirmed yes. Event was scheduled for this weekend.

On Friday my friend called and said her husband was interested in doing an out of town event, and that it “shouldn’t” affect our plans for the weekend. However, during our conversation it became clear that they wouldn’t make the event. I was pretty annoyed as (a) we had plans and (b) I wouldn’t even have thought to buy tickets for the event if she hadn’t brought it up.

We’re trying to get a refund from the cc company but, money aside, what would you think about this? Would this bother you? Am I overreacting in being bothered by this? Should I say something?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you checked with your husband but your friend didn’t check.

[Anonymous]

You should go.

[Anonymous]

I'd be annoyed with the friend, but go and enjoy the night out with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should go.

This is OP, sorry I wasn’t clear: the event took place over the weekend (Sunday). We weren’t interested in going without them - it was interesting in the context of going with a group, if that makes sense. Not something we would normally do on our own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should go.

This is OP, sorry I wasn’t clear: the event took place over the weekend (Sunday). We weren’t interested in going without them - it was interesting in the context of going with a group, if that makes sense. Not something we would normally do on our own.

You chose misery.

[Anonymous]

Let it go but take notes for the future.

[Anonymous]

She's a flake.

Plan accordingly in the future.

I don't think she's going feel badly because of what you say to her, but of it makes you feel better, you could tell her how you feel.

[Anonymous]

I would never make plans with her again. She's a flake in the worst sense. And she has no respect for your time and wallet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never make plans with her again. She's a flake in the worst sense. And she has no respect for your time and wallet.

+1 This would be a deal breaker for me. It's even worse that she's not extremely apologetic and she was going to string you along until you forced her to admit that she wasn't going. OP, you don't need friends like this.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think you’re entitled to a refund?

[Anonymous]

It would bother me and I'd be ticked with friend.

Second, don't buy tickets for others. If they must be bought as a group, put that burden on your friend. Don't know if/why the cc company would refund you. You all elected not to go.

[Anonymous]

You lost me when you said you were trying to get a refund from your credit card company. Why? Did you lie and say it was fraud?

Also why are they not paying you back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never make plans with her again. She's a flake in the worst sense. And she has no respect for your time and wallet.

Agree. She did not even have enough respect for you to outright cancel. She made you figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Unless the plan was swapping, I don’t see why you and your husband couldn’t go together.

You also don’t get refunds because you can’t attend events without chaperones.