My kid's dream school sucked.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to out my kid, but the school they see on TV for what they do was a let down.

We could not do college visits due to Covid. Kid also hade to go through the audition/prescreen process. High GPA but applied test optional since there were not so many tests to take.

Kid went to a "Gossip Girls" school and hated it by day 3. Sucked it up and took a variety of classes. Applied to 2 other schools and landed on one that was cheaper and hadn't accepted them the first time around.

It isn't BLISS but it is better.

I share this because we did ALLLLLLLLLL of the things to get to point A. Point A was not the right stop. There were literally 0 consequences to this choice as Point B has other perks and are now more appreciated. Not happily ever after, but happy enough after some growth and reflection.

Sharing this to offer some perspective to the parents who are anxiously awaiting the GREAT NEWS email. There may be more to the journey and the path may have some curves.

[Anonymous]

Nowadays kids can and do visit. Your kid went in blind.

[Anonymous]

Definitely Yale, sorry to hear they had a bad time.

[Anonymous]

Why can't you just name the school?

[Anonymous]

I could have written this post. On plan b here as well. Possibly even the same school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely Yale, sorry to hear they had a bad time.

Nah, could just as well be NYU or Columbia. We don’t know which one.

I most often hear kids hate those two rather than Yale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nowadays kids can and do visit. Your kid went in blind.

I am not sure visits always give a true picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to out my kid, but the school they see on TV for what they do was a let down.

We could not do college visits due to Covid. Kid also hade to go through the audition/prescreen process. High GPA but applied test optional since there were not so many tests to take.

Kid went to a "Gossip Girls" school and hated it by day 3. Sucked it up and took a variety of classes. Applied to 2 other schools and landed on one that was cheaper and hadn't accepted them the first time around.

It isn't BLISS but it is better.

I share this because we did ALLLLLLLLLL of the things to get to point A. Point A was not the right stop. There were literally 0 consequences to this choice as Point B has other perks and are now more appreciated. Not happily ever after, but happy enough after some growth and reflection.

Sharing this to offer some perspective to the parents who are anxiously awaiting the GREAT NEWS email. There may be more to the journey and the path may have some curves.

So they really gave it a chance!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nowadays kids can and do visit. Your kid went in blind.

I am not sure visits always give a true picture.

How could they? It's only a curated snapshot of one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nowadays kids can and do visit. Your kid went in blind.

If you think a 2 hour tour and an open house or two give one an accurate and complete look at a university you are naive. You won’t know till you actually suffer through the dorm life and dining hall and class registration and all the rest to really know what it’s like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely Yale, sorry to hear they had a bad time.

Nah, could just as well be NYU or Columbia. We don’t know which one.

I most often hear kids hate those two rather than Yale.

I was thinking nyu.

[Anonymous]

Yale and Columbia don't have auditions for undergrad (though you can submit arts supplements for some things).

Regardless, kid must be talented if able to transfer to a school they didn't get into on initial application. Or, kid moved away from conservatory performing arts? Either way, hope the kid makes the best of it. That may be part of the issue with experiences at both NYU and current school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nowadays kids can and do visit. Your kid went in blind.

If you think a 2 hour tour and an open house or two give one an accurate and complete look at a university you are naive. You won’t know till you actually suffer through the dorm life and dining hall and class registration and all the rest to really know what it’s like.

OP’s kid would have known it was a gossip girl kind of school if they visited and since it took until day 3 to declare they hated it, a tour and some time on campus would have given them a lot of insight into the specific school. Every college has dorm life, dining hall and class registration to deal with, it’s the vibe that OP’s kid didn’t like and a tour can definitely give one an idea of the vibe.

[Anonymous]

What's a "gossip girl" school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's a "gossip girl" school?

NYU, Columbia or Yale. (Schools students went to in the series). But OP mentioned auditions, so that must be NYU.