How bad to consider taking the oldest kid on a special trip over thnxgvg if the younger one is too little to notice?
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Anonymous
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We have two DDs ages 6 and 2. Older DD has the whole week of Thanksgiving off school. I've been wanting to plan a special mother-daughter trip with her anyway while the 2yo is still too young to really understand. Is it "bad mom" to consider taking older DD to London the week of thanksgiving? She is very into theater, castles, and tea parties right now and we have a flight credit to use by the end of the year. DH and DD2 could drive to his brothers and stay that weekend with his parents, brother, SIL, and same age toddler cousins. DD2 is close to all of them and my in laws have been caring for her 2x a week since she was an infant. The kids don't really care about thanksgiving yet (as far as the actual food/meal) but I still feel guilty for considering this.
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Anonymous
| I’m not saying it’s “bad,” but a 2 year old definitely would notice if her mom and sister left. I think you need to be upfront with her about what you’re doing and how she’ll have fun with daddy and her cousins. |
Anonymous
| Nope. Go. The other child is with their father. Easy. |
Anonymous
| I don't think it's bad. Think it's nice and relatively common for parents to have a special trip with just one child. In theory you would also do a special trip with the younger one when she's old enough. |
Anonymous
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I think it’s fine.
I just think you need to do something similar with the 2nd DD when she is 6. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
| It's fine. You and your older daughter will cherish the special memories you create on this trip. Just do something similar with your other daughter when she's old enough. |
Anonymous
| That sounds amazing. Go for it. |
Anonymous
| Just do it |
Anonymous
| I think single kid single parent trips are essential. Do it! (I would say don’t if dad was going too) |
Anonymous
| My parents took my older siblings to Disney over Thanksgiving and left me with my aunt when I was one. Just know that the younger kid will give you grief about abandonment forever. 😉 |
Anonymous
| I did a weekend trip with DS1 and it was really special. DS2 understood that it was a one-on-one trip and is looking forward to his turn. Go for it! |
Anonymous
| We have three kids and do variations of this all the time. I want to build memories with each kid solo sometimes. I promise it's fine. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t miss thanksgiving personally, that is a great family holiday time for everyone to be together. Also I took my kids to London when they were 4, it isn’t a super great city to spend a full week in for young kids. It will be cold, your 4 year old will have limited patience for indoor things like museums, etc. if you are going to do a mommy daughter trip maybe rethink the location and just do Friday - Wednesday so that you are back with the family for thanksgiving itself. |
Anonymous
| Go go go! |