Next Door Neighbor's Kid Has Obsession With DD

[Anonymous]

Unsolicited calls, texts, staring, leaving notes, sulking that attention isn't returned.

WTF do I do?

[Anonymous]

How old are they?

[Anonymous]

Ages?

[Anonymous]

do you know the neighbors? Have you talked to them about it?

[Anonymous]

No advice, but we had a kid in our neighborhood like this. His dad was a famous child psych who claimed the best way to raise kids was to leave them alone. Well, he left his kid alone all right. And his kid would be over at our house or other people's houses as soon as he saw someone's car pull in their driveway. Kid was lonely. That may be the case.

How old are these kids? Are we talking same sex six year olds or some creepy teen crushing and stalking?

[Anonymous]

Age is critical here. Can't answer without it.

[Anonymous]

OP here- kid is same age- 15.

[Anonymous]

OP again- next door neighbor kid is a boy.

[Anonymous]

You need to have a friendly, well-intentioned conversation with the boy's parent.

This is harassment and it needs to stop.

Don't go in guns blazing. Go in sympathetic that its probably a difficult message for the other parent to hear. And then give them a chance to fix it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to have a friendly, well-intentioned conversation with the boy's parent.

This is harassment and it needs to stop.

Don't go in guns blazing. Go in sympathetic that its probably a difficult message for the other parent to hear. And then give them a chance to fix it

This. Probably the kids first experience with a crush/infatuation and doesn't know how to handle it.

[Anonymous]

Are you certain DD is not interested.


Tell her to clearly but politely let him know she's not interested.



You follow up with that with his parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you certain DD is not interested.


Tell her to clearly but politely let him know she's not interested.



You follow up with that with his parents.

This, in this order. DD needs to be clear about setting a boundary (I get this could be really hard at 15, you will likely need to help her figure out how to do it and support her when she is nervous about it). And then if that doesn't work, or it escalates, time to follow up with the boy's parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you certain DD is not interested.


Tell her to clearly but politely let him know she's not interested.



You follow up with that with his parents.

Yes- she looks out the window before leaving just to avoid him.

[Anonymous]

Have your DD be very clear and explicit via text, not rude but not overly polite.

Keep the text and all his texts, notes etc. Go to his parents if it does not stop. He is basically stalking her, that's a terrible experience for a young girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you certain DD is not interested.


Tell her to clearly but politely let him know she's not interested.



You follow up with that with his parents.

Yes- she looks out the window before leaving just to avoid him.

What are you waiting for? That sounds awful.