Why are sleepovers so important?

[Anonymous]

We don’t allow sleepovers, period. Why are people so outraged and appalled by a “no” to sleepovers? It’s bizarre.

My kids have traveled with school groups and sports, gone out of town with relatives, etc. We can easily say a simple “no, sorry” to a party or anything else as needed, but no to a sleepover in a private home is met with “oh no! why not?! what other dates work?!” from other parents and their kids. I just don’t get why it is so important and why such a big push for these events.

[Anonymous]

They're not important.

Older teen DC never wanted a sleepover, and younger teen DC only exchanges sleepovers with her best friend. I would not allow a sleepover with a family we don't know well, but then my kids wouldn't want that either, so it's never been a problem.

[Anonymous]

It’s a fun and unique rite of passage. Why the mock outrage on your part?

And: obviously, if you say no to a party they aren’t going to try to reschedule the party for everyone. But if it’s a one on one invite (for a sleepover) it’s natural to ask about alternate dates

[Anonymous]

They aren't really. I never had one. But i also didn't have many friends. If i had a group of friends that all got together and i didnt, i would have really felt left out. We allow sleepovers for my 7 year old. With like 2 friends whose families we know very well and it happens like 2ce a year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t allow sleepovers, period. Why are people so outraged and appalled by a “no” to sleepovers? It’s bizarre.

My kids have traveled with school groups and sports, gone out of town with relatives, etc. We can easily say a simple “no, sorry” to a party or anything else as needed, but no to a sleepover in a private home is met with “oh no! why not?! what other dates work?!” from other parents and their kids. I just don’t get why it is so important and why such a big push for these events.

Not judging just asking, so you let your kids go on trips with school groups and sports teams, but no sleepovers? Why, what's the difference to you?

[Anonymous]

Because they're a ton of fun. A lot of bonding happens at sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

I had the best time at sleepovers. I still remember my favorite ones. It was a time where some friends could relax and have fun without adults hovering or scheduling your time. My first one was in fifth grade at my house with about four friends.

Our parents never knew each other. By high school there were mixed sleepovers at whose house was empty for the weekend.

There were sneak outs occasionally but mostly just to take a walk in the middle of the night.

For my kids I know some parents but not all. I think it’s a nice way to become close to your friends and make new ones.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you're upset that someone is trying to be accommodating and include your child in a party. About instead of just saying "no. Sorry" you say our family doesn't do sleepovers and that way they know so you're not caught in this loop of them trying to be accommodating and you being outraged.

[Anonymous]

You don’t get to choose how other people react to your choices.

[Anonymous]

People are really outraged when you say no?
Sleepovers aren’t big in my tweens circles but I would handle each request on a case by case basis.
Haven’t seen any outrage over it so far though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t get to choose how other people react to your choices.

It's the "we don't allow, period." It begs the question of why.

No one is outraged or thinks they are "so important" but yeah people are curious and free to judge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t allow sleepovers, period. Why are people so outraged and appalled by a “no” to sleepovers? It’s bizarre.

My kids have traveled with school groups and sports, gone out of town with relatives, etc. We can easily say a simple “no, sorry” to a party or anything else as needed, but no to a sleepover in a private home is met with “oh no! why not?! what other dates work?!” from other parents and their kids. I just don’t get why it is so important and why such a big push for these events.

A strict “no sleepovers” policy is too often borne out of a parent’s transphobic prejudice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don’t allow sleepovers, period. Why are people so outraged and appalled by a “no” to sleepovers? It’s bizarre.

My kids have traveled with school groups and sports, gone out of town with relatives, etc. We can easily say a simple “no, sorry” to a party or anything else as needed, but no to a sleepover in a private home is met with “oh no! why not?! what other dates work?!” from other parents and their kids. I just don’t get why it is so important and why such a big push for these events.

A strict “no sleepovers” policy is too often borne out of a parent’s transphobic prejudice.

I think it’s former sexual assault or childhood abuse.

[Anonymous]

I don’t care, you can pick your child up at 10 or 11 but don’t be annoyed by me having these parties and still inviting your child.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's a big deal that you don't allow sleepovers . Please don't post on here complaining when your child is excluded from other things. You can't have it both ways.