Jealous of people with reproductive luck

[Anonymous]

Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

[Anonymous]

Hear hear. It’s just one of those things… even though you know what therein lies madness, it’s impossible not to compare yourself to the more fortunate. Even though logically you know everyone has their own shit to deal with and happiness isn’t some zero sum game among women. My tactic is to just acknowledge it as a silly thought and move on.

[Anonymous]

Don’t waste your time being envious. Pettiness is an energy suck. You never know what someone is going through elsewhere in their life.

[Anonymous]

My child birth mother was raped and got pregnant. It’s not all puppies and flowers for those who get pregnant easily.
Everyone has a different path in life. Being jealous/envious will get you nowhere on your own path.

[Anonymous]

I was that person. Got pregnant on the first try every time. Then I have had 5 miscarriages and 2 years of infertility treatments. So luck runs out some times.

[Anonymous]

I get it, but remember that this is one factor in life. Some people have reproductive luck but bad luck with their families of origin or their partner -- I promise you they are not happier than you are, even with wanted children (perhaps especially with wanted children). There are some people who are seemingly lucky in every way. Oh well. Thinking about that doesn't get you anywhere.

All I can tell you is this: focus on the stuff you can control. The more you focus on the stuff out of your control, the luck, the harder it is to make the choices you need to make when you need to make them. Make a list of everything you can't control (your age, your genetics) and burn it. It is what it is. Then make a list of everything you CAN control, and focus on that. Nothing else matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you jealous of third world teenage mothers with multiple children living in poverty?

Ah the fallacy of relative privation appears earlier in thread than I anticipated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you jealous of third world teenage mothers with multiple children living in poverty?

Ah the fallacy of relative privation appears earlier in thread than I anticipated

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OP started it.

[Anonymous]

The thing is you don’t really know what someone else has been through.

[Anonymous]

Me too

[Anonymous]

Of course it’s normal to be jealous of this! It’s normal AND appropriate.

You can’t let it eat you up, but it would be insane to not feel it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course it’s normal to be jealous of this! It’s normal AND appropriate.

You can’t let it eat you up, but it would be insane to not feel it.

+1.

[Anonymous]

It’s especially hard when the lucky one is related to you

[Anonymous]

The risk of unplanned pregnancy in an increasingly hostile abortion landscape is terrifying for these women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jealous of women who have good luck with their fertility. The ones who get pregnant at first try, no miscarriages or ectopic pregnancies, easy pregnancy and no complications.

What a dream!

I started at 26. Age is important for fertility.