GF says she doubts that she deserves me

[Anonymous]

Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

[Anonymous]

Does she has any body issues? Who look better out of you two?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

[Anonymous]

Lord she was probably trying to give you a compliment. Like you’re fantastic and what did she do to deserve someone like you? She made this comment several months ago and you’re still fixated on it? That’s odd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

+1. LOL. I was wondering which way it goes. OP consider yourself lucky. PhDs are dime a dozen, a nurse adds real value to the society and has lifetime job security, unlike you. Sounds more like beginning of, "it's not you, it's me" breakup.

[Anonymous]

Man are these fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

the value of a PhD vs the value of the knowledge and skills or a nurse? hmmm.... really a tough one...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

but do you do anything meaningful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

DP. Okay. So, what makes her amazing, unique, and of highest value to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lord she was probably trying to give you a compliment. Like you’re fantastic and what did she do to deserve someone like you? She made this comment several months ago and you’re still fixated on it? That’s odd.

I agree with PP. this is what’s going on with your gf. She has some confidence and self-esteem issues and her comment shows that.

[Anonymous]

okay op tell me if i am right. i bet she was born and raised in a different country where phds are tremendously respected. was she born and raised here? or other country??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

but do you do anything meaningful?

Yes, a lot and my job is fulfilling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

but do you do anything meaningful?

Yes, a lot and my job is fulfilling.

SOunds like you'd be perfectly happy and fulfilled alone -- right?

[Anonymous]

I agree it’s the beginning of a slow fade