GF says she doubts that she deserves me

[Anonymous]

Nurses have at least a BSN degree, or should, so she's not dumb. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:okay op tell me if i am right. i bet she was born and raised in a different country where phds are tremendously respected. was she born and raised here? or other country??

She was raised here and I was raised in a different country and came to US for my PhD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nurses have at least a BSN degree, or should, so she's not dumb. Sheesh.

She has an associate and is an LPN.

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Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

but do you do anything meaningful?

Trolls DCUM with 10+ new troll threads a day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:okay op tell me if i am right. i bet she was born and raised in a different country where phds are tremendously respected. was she born and raised here? or other country??

She was raised here and I was raised in a different country and came to US for my PhD

i see so you are not a citizen. man, you need her more than she NEEDS you. are you using her?

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Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

DP. Okay. So, what makes her amazing, unique, and of highest value to you?

I don’t consider materialistic stuff in between relationships. She is very sweet, caring and thoughtful towards me and we enjoy each others coming and add happiness. That’s more important for me than she making big bucks and has annoying or arrogant personality.

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Anonymous wrote:okay op tell me if i am right. i bet she was born and raised in a different country where phds are tremendously respected. was she born and raised here? or other country??

She was raised here and I was raised in a different country and came to US for my PhD

i see so you are not a citizen. man, you need her more than she NEEDS you. are you using her?

Lol! No, I am citizen and hv been since last 15 years.

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Anonymous wrote:okay op tell me if i am right. i bet she was born and raised in a different country where phds are tremendously respected. was she born and raised here? or other country??

She was raised here and I was raised in a different country and came to US for my PhD

i see so you are not a citizen. man, you need her more than she NEEDS you. are you using her?

Lol! No, I am citizen and hv been since last 15 years.

A citizen*

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Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

DP. Okay. So, what makes her amazing, unique, and of highest value to you?

I don’t consider materialistic stuff in between relationships. She is very sweet, caring and thoughtful towards me and we enjoy each others coming and add happiness. That’s more important for me than she making big bucks and has annoying or arrogant personality.

You are a great man. I doubt she deserves you.

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Anonymous wrote:okay op tell me if i am right. i bet she was born and raised in a different country where phds are tremendously respected. was she born and raised here? or other country??

She was raised here and I was raised in a different country and came to US for my PhD

i see so you are not a citizen. man, you need her more than she NEEDS you. are you using her?

Lol! No, I am citizen and hv been since last 15 years.

LOL. I was just jerking your chain. I'd just enjoy the time together. Maybe, just maybe, you two are soulmates. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

She’s laying the groundwork to dump you, again.

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DP. Okay. So, what makes her amazing, unique, and of highest value to you?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t consider materialistic stuff in between relationships. She is very sweet, caring and thoughtful towards me and we enjoy each others coming and add happiness. That’s more important for me than she making big bucks and has annoying or arrogant personality.

That's all very vague and nonspecific. It isn't amazing or unique at all, and it doesn't sound like she is of highest value to you. Frankly, you could describe your childhood dog with the same words.

She doesn't need you, bro, and she knows you don't value her. This is indeed the slow fade.

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Anonymous wrote:okay op tell me if i am right. i bet she was born and raised in a different country where phds are tremendously respected. was she born and raised here? or other country??

She was raised here and I was raised in a different country and came to US for my PhD

i see so you are not a citizen. man, you need her more than she NEEDS you. are you using her?

Lol! No, I am citizen and hv been since last 15 years.

LOL. I was just jerking your chain. I'd just enjoy the time together. Maybe, just maybe, you two are soulmates. Good luck!

Haha, I figured. Thanks though!

I was trying to ask if there is anything I could do here. I know if someone feels certain way then it’s on them to deal with it and I’ll continue to be supportive and patient.

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Anonymous wrote:Gf and I are both in our 40s and have been dating for 6+ Months. We have a little mismatch in our education(I have an PhD and she’s a nurse) and income levels but I have never shown or make her feel about that in any way. A couple of months back she mentioned that she has doubts that she deserve me which caught me off guard. Not sure where is this coming from - low self esteem?

So she outearns you?

Sounds self-deprecating to me…

Op here. No, I earn more and higher educated.

DP. Okay. So, what makes her amazing, unique, and of highest value to you?

I don’t consider materialistic stuff in between relationships. She is very sweet, caring and thoughtful towards me and we enjoy each others coming and add happiness. That’s more important for me than she making big bucks and has annoying or arrogant personality.

You are a great man. I doubt she deserves you.

Hi, OP!

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DP. Okay. So, what makes her amazing, unique, and of highest value to you?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t consider materialistic stuff in between relationships. She is very sweet, caring and thoughtful towards me and we enjoy each others coming and add happiness. That’s more important for me than she making big bucks and has annoying or arrogant personality.

That's all very vague and nonspecific. It isn't amazing or unique at all, and it doesn't sound like she is of highest value to you. Frankly, you could describe your childhood dog with the same words.

She doesn't need you, bro, and she knows you don't value her. This is indeed the slow fade.

How do you know OP values her or not? He just mentioned a small interaction with his gf and you don’t know what else goes on.