Are private school kids more respectful of teachers?

[Anonymous]

Subbing and volunteering at public schools for a few years their behavior toward teachers can be shocking to me. Even when I raise my voice, give the teacher stare, do all the classroom management things, it was rough and admin was not helpful at all.

Was thinking of subbing at private schools and wondering if the respect and behavior is better toward teachers. I realize each school is a little different but to generalize a little, will I have an easier time dealing with kids in private schools?

[Anonymous]

It’s night and day different. A whole new level of respect. Kids at our school often wrote thank you notes to the subs, and the subs can be specific about what they want or don’t want to teach. Quite a few subs at our school go on to become full time teachers or permanent subs (we have one or 2 in each division), so it must be ok

[Anonymous]

It's a different type of bad. Private school kids, frankly, are mostly entitled little sh*ts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a different type of bad. Private school kids, frankly, are mostly entitled little sh*ts.

Wonderful kids at our private. Lovely for classes and friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a different type of bad. Private school kids, frankly, are mostly entitled little sh*ts.

And your experience is… ?

I’ve taught over 20 years, divided between public and private. The private school students are much more respectful. I get thanked after every class by at least 1/3 of the students. I usually only have to redirect behavior once and the problem is solved, usually with an apology.

I’ve taught wonderful, polite students at my former public school. Unfortunately, they were often outnumbered by the students who have learned that they can get away with disrespectful behaviors.

I pulled my own kids and put them in private.

[Anonymous]

Having taught public and private: private kids will look you in the eye and tell you how sorry they are that they did something wrong and they’ll never do it again, then do it again as soon as your back is turned.

Some people confuse this for respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having taught public and private: private kids will look you in the eye and tell you how sorry they are that they did something wrong and they’ll never do it again, then do it again as soon as your back is turned.

Some people confuse this for respect.

Or maybe it's poor impulse control because we're talking about kids. But that sounds better than a kid refusing to apologize, doing the wrong thing again anyway, and asking what you're going to do about it knowing you're actually powerless. Private school kids know they can be shown the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having taught public and private: private kids will look you in the eye and tell you how sorry they are that they did something wrong and they’ll never do it again, then do it again as soon as your back is turned.

Some people confuse this for respect.

Or maybe it's poor impulse control because we're talking about kids. But that sounds better than a kid refusing to apologize, doing the wrong thing again anyway, and asking what you're going to do about it knowing you're actually powerless. Private school kids know they can be shown the door.

+1 from the teacher pp above
I don’t think a repeated behavior is blatant disrespect. I consider that part of teenage development as children tend to forget. I’ll still take that any day over being told “No, b****” and “f*** y**” once a class period like I was in public.

To the “some people confuse this for respect” poster: please don’t insult me or my intelligence.

[Anonymous]

They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kids, but really as a sub? You won't get the respect as their regular teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the kids, but really as a sub? You won't get the respect as their regular teacher.

I disagree. We have a very structured school environment. Expectations don’t relax because there is a sub in the room.

We have very clear rules and very clear consequences for breaking them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a different type of bad. Private school kids, frankly, are mostly entitled little sh*ts.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a different type of bad. Private school kids, frankly, are mostly entitled little sh*ts.

No, that's just the chip on your shoulder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are better behaved because they can be kicked out. Whether that is the same as more respectful is a different question.

But the classroom experience is better, OP, if that’s your actual question.

+1

They also have parents who are not completely checked out.

Have you really never seen completely checked out rich parents? I went to fancy schools growing up and had several friends whose parents sent them to expensive schools but otherwise didn't give a shit about them and hardly interacted with them, the schools, other parents, etc. The kids were fending for themselves, they just weren't poor.