married by 30

[Anonymous]

What's the wisdom behind it?

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's any "wisdom" or logic other than that I found the person I wanted to marry before 30. He's everything I wanted in a husband and father to my kids and I just so happened to meet him in my early 20s (he was a few years older). I remember being a little worried that we would change a lot, and I have in a lot of ways, but we're still very much in love and have built the life we wanted. 10+ years later and it's still the best decision I ever made. I know it won't always be smooth sailing, but I don't doubt getting married before 30.

[Anonymous]

Gives you time to be a married couple before becoming parents

Allows you to build a common life vs combining two completely separate ones

Gives you more time together in life

I'm grateful I married early, but I also realize I was exceedingly lucky to meet "my person" when we were young.

[Anonymous]

The pool of single and desirable mates gets pretty shallow after 30.

[Anonymous]

If you want to have a family before your birth family disintegrates, you've to start while healthy and fertile?

[Anonymous]

There’s only wisdom in getting married when you believe you have found the right person and you’re both willing and able to commit to marriage, whatever age that would be.

[Anonymous]

I was 26 and DH was 29 when we married. We knew we wanted kids before 35 as we both have parents who were much older or who had detiorating health issues. Had DS when I was just turned 30, so we did get to enjoy some time married before having him.

Honestly, I dont think there is any wisdom behind it unless you want kids younger or plan to do X, Y, and Z when you're married but before kids. My best friend wanted to live abroad with her DH while he transferred for work before they had kids. So they had to factor that in.

I was fortunate I met DH early on. He's fantastic. But people shouldn't settle because of some idea they need to be married by 30.

[Anonymous]

Why do you ask, OP?

[Anonymous]

I wanted to be done having kids by 30. My reasons were:
-Wanted to be a young mom
-Wanted my parents and in laws to be young grandparents
-Liked the thought of kids out of the house before Dh and I are 50 as we love travel and adventure and thought it would be fun to have those years to look forward to together

We married at 26, bought a house at 27, kids at 27 and 29. Currently 33 and all is well so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the wisdom behind it?

If I was going to move cross-country with my SO while he attended medical school, we were going to marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think there's any "wisdom" or logic other than that I found the person I wanted to marry before 30. He's everything I wanted in a husband and father to my kids and I just so happened to meet him in my early 20s (he was a few years older). I remember being a little worried that we would change a lot, and I have in a lot of ways, but we're still very much in love and have built the life we wanted. 10+ years later and it's still the best decision I ever made. I know it won't always be smooth sailing, but I don't doubt getting married before 30.

Our story is similar to this...met at 24, moved in together at 26, married at 28, still going strong at 47. If you've met the right person then you take the next step.

[Anonymous]

I think in the west marriage before 30 is less and less common for various reasons. Marriage itself any age will be less and less common as well. It will never be extinct but 100 years from today the married ones will be the odd ones.

[Anonymous]

Many, many people get married before 30. DCUM is a bubble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask, OP?

Why did you ask this question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think in the west marriage before 30 is less and less common for various reasons. Marriage itself any age will be less and less common as well. It will never be extinct but 100 years from today the married ones will be the odd ones.

Good.