married by 30

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am about to turn 30 and I don't have a single friend who is married. I know two couples who got married before/at 30:

1. Bride was 23 and groom was 24. Both very right-wing and religious.
2. Bride was 27 and groom was 30. Bride came from southern money and insisted that if you didn't get married in your 20s, you would have to have a baby at 30, and that's too old. She is now 30 and does not have a baby, so I guess she'll be a granny mom by her own standards.

Otherwise, even the most conservative, traditional people I know got married in their early 30s. I just don't think it's common to get married in your 20s in DC.

Well, not among your generation. The people who claim it is are all 40+. But yes, statistically, your generation is getting married later than ours.

[Anonymous]

Lock down a good spouse before others get to them
Get started having children before your egg and sperm quality go off the deep end
Be a grandparent in your 60s rather than 80s
Grow up and get on with life with a loving and high quality partner

[Anonymous]

DC is expensive, young people have housing costs, paying student loans, partying or networking but most are transplant from other states so lack a trusted social circle. Its tough to find quality partners who are willing and able to get married.

[Anonymous]

I'm 31 and I don't have a single unmarried friend. One of my DH's friends asked me recently if I had any friends to set him up with and I literally didn't have a single suggestion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and I don't have a single unmarried friend. One of my DH's friends asked me recently if I had any friends to set him up with and I literally didn't have a single suggestion.

In DC? I'm 38 - most of my friends got married between 30 and 35, to have them all married by 31 is unusual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am about to turn 30 and I don't have a single friend who is married. I know two couples who got married before/at 30:

1. Bride was 23 and groom was 24. Both very right-wing and religious.
2. Bride was 27 and groom was 30. Bride came from southern money and insisted that if you didn't get married in your 20s, you would have to have a baby at 30, and that's too old. She is now 30 and does not have a baby, so I guess she'll be a granny mom by her own standards.

Otherwise, even the most conservative, traditional people I know got married in their early 30s. I just don't think it's common to get married in your 20s in DC.

Well, not among your generation. The people who claim it is are all 40+. But yes, statistically, your generation is getting married later than ours.

We have four daughters in their 30s, all of whom have master’s degrees and very good jobs in the DMV. Three are married. All three got married before turning 30. Many of their friends married before 30 as well.

I guess some of you have very narrow circles of friends?

[Anonymous]

The best time to get married is after 25 but before 30. It’s a difficult needle to thread.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of people from UC backgrounds get married before 30 but after 25. I went to an Ivy and have a lot of friends with rich parents and most women I know got married 27-29.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am about to turn 30 and I don't have a single friend who is married. I know two couples who got married before/at 30:

1. Bride was 23 and groom was 24. Both very right-wing and religious.
2. Bride was 27 and groom was 30. Bride came from southern money and insisted that if you didn't get married in your 20s, you would have to have a baby at 30, and that's too old. She is now 30 and does not have a baby, so I guess she'll be a granny mom by her own standards.

Otherwise, even the most conservative, traditional people I know got married in their early 30s. I just don't think it's common to get married in your 20s in DC.

Well, not among your generation. The people who claim it is are all 40+. But yes, statistically, your generation is getting married later than ours.

We have four daughters in their 30s, all of whom have master’s degrees and very good jobs in the DMV. Three are married. All three got married before turning 30. Many of their friends married before 30 as well.

I guess some of you have very narrow circles of friends?

I didn't say it never happens, I just said it's becoming less and less common. One could argue the same, that if you think everyone is getting married before 30, you also have a limited circle.

I'd also like to point out that the most defensive people on these threads are the ones who did get married/have kids before 30. They claim that the post-30 wives and mothers are bitter and jealous when in reality, the ones who got married/had kids before 30 freak out when anyone suggests it's not super common anymore. The average age of marriage in DC rn is 29.7 for women and 30.6 for men. To claim everyone is getting married before 30 because you know four women and some change who did is bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best time to get married is after 25 but before 30. It’s a difficult needle to thread.

Actually statistically, the best age to get married is 28-32.

[Anonymous]

The median age for women marrying for the first time in DC is just a few months over 30. The median age is below 30 in every one of the 50 states.

So, yea, let’s stop with the silliness that it’s unusual for women to get married before 30.

https://www.prb.org/usdata/indicator/marriage-age-women/chart/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people from UC backgrounds get married before 30 but after 25. I went to an Ivy and have a lot of friends with rich parents and most women I know got married 27-29.

Posted above that I am 29 with no married friends and I would agree with this. My friends and I are all solidly UMC but a lot of influencers we know who grew up in very upper crust, NYC circles all got married in their late 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The median age for women marrying for the first time in DC is just a few months over 30. The median age is below 30 in every one of the 50 states.

So, yea, let’s stop with the silliness that it’s unusual for women to get married before 30.

https://www.prb.org/usdata/indicator/marriage-age-women/chart/

But my daughter and all her friends got married before 30!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and I don't have a single unmarried friend. One of my DH's friends asked me recently if I had any friends to set him up with and I literally didn't have a single suggestion.

In DC? I'm 38 - most of my friends got married between 30 and 35, to have them all married by 31 is unusual.

Agree, I'm also in my late 30s and like two friends were married by 31. Very unusual indeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am about to turn 30 and I don't have a single friend who is married. I know two couples who got married before/at 30:

1. Bride was 23 and groom was 24. Both very right-wing and religious.
2. Bride was 27 and groom was 30. Bride came from southern money and insisted that if you didn't get married in your 20s, you would have to have a baby at 30, and that's too old. She is now 30 and does not have a baby, so I guess she'll be a granny mom by her own standards.

Otherwise, even the most conservative, traditional people I know got married in their early 30s. I just don't think it's common to get married in your 20s in DC.

Well, not among your generation. The people who claim it is are all 40+. But yes, statistically, your generation is getting married later than ours.

We have four daughters in their 30s, all of whom have master’s degrees and very good jobs in the DMV. Three are married. All three got married before turning 30. Many of their friends married before 30 as well.

I guess some of you have very narrow circles of friends?

I didn't say it never happens, I just said it's becoming less and less common. One could argue the same, that if you think everyone is getting married before 30, you also have a limited circle.

I'd also like to point out that the most defensive people on these threads are the ones who did get married/have kids before 30. They claim that the post-30 wives and mothers are bitter and jealous when in reality, the ones who got married/had kids before 30 freak out when anyone suggests it's not super common anymore. The average age of marriage in DC rn is 29.7 for women and 30.6 for men. To claim everyone is getting married before 30 because you know four women and some change who did is bizarre.

Lol and the claim that you know no one except for some crazy conservative couple is more bizarre. And I never said “everyone.” I said “many.” It’s you who said “no one.” So who’s backtracking and being defensive here?