If you're in a long term (15, 20+ year) marriage, what do you talk about with your spouse?
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Anonymous
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This seems like a ridiculous question but I really could use some help here.
If you're in a 15 or 20 or more year marriage, what do you talk about with your spouse if you have time together? (if you go out to eat, go on a walk, etc) |
Anonymous
| Work and kids. |
Anonymous
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Books
Current events Upcoming plans - immediate and longer term -especially planning for vacations “Business” - kid things, house things, yard things Retirement planning Individual news of the day (how was work, how was “knitting group”) - anything particularly news or funny Health issues |
Anonymous
Oh, gosh . . . kids, work, politics, friends, the dog, movies and TV shows, neighbors, gardening, the dog, music, travel plans, how beautiful spring is, and did I mention the dog? 
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Anonymous
All of this. Plus family and friend stuff. We typically go to the movies a couple of times a month and talk about that. We have a few shows we watch together and talk about them. We love documentaries which always leads to some interesting stuff to discuss. We text each other articles the other one might be interested in — stuff like orca whales attacking boats, guy discovers buried treasure in his backyard, etc. And we talk about that. |
Anonymous
| The kid, the dog, work, politics, family. Same stuff we talked about 10 years ago. I wonder a bit if it will change when the kid is out of the house and we know less about his life to worry about and perseverate on! We are intentionally working on finding other things in our life to be interested in as preparation. |
Anonymous
Same poster. To give you a very concrete example, we drove 30 minutes each way last night to go to a date night at a minor league baseball game. The one hour commute involves discussion about the perfect weather, did we go to a game last season, my dad and sisters argument with each other, his divorced friend that has no life other than his kid and we are worried about him once his kid graduates and heads to college, who would my husband stay friends with amongst our social group if I died (this was actually more of a joking around thing), our plans for the next night (we have separate plans with friends), etc. |
Anonymous
| All of the above and compliments about their appearance, flirting, and saying I love you and just talking about our 20yr relationship throughout the years. |
Anonymous
| We don’t. |
Anonymous
| My husband is now my best friend, so we talk about pretty much everything. I still have lots of other friends though, and so does he, which is important. |
Anonymous
| Ideas, his work and my work (we actually enjoy our work!), delightful things the kids have done. Plans for the future. Movies and shows we just watched together. |
Anonymous
| Perspectives on current events, internet memes, household stuff |
Anonymous
| Kids, family, friends, movies, music, travel plans, hobbies, some politics - basically whatever we talked about when we were dating + the kids. |
Anonymous
| Everything. Work. Our kid. Friends. We play a lot of board games so we talk about those. She's doing a knitting project so we talk about what's working and what's hard. I'm reading a book on the Ottoman Empire so I'm explaining stuff I've found interesting in that to her. |
Anonymous
| Not much. Pretty bored with each other 20 years in. Extremely worried about the empty nest stage. |