Perimenopausal mood swings

[Anonymous]

I have gotten to the point where I lose total control of my emotions around the time that I ovulate and again for the 4-5 days before my period starts. For a while I could stop, recognize it and get myself under control but I’ve been going through a stressful period and am weepy, irritable and angry. Not sure what to do. I wish I had dealt with this sooner. My PCP doesn’t have appointments until September and I’m not sure what to do.

[Anonymous]

Exercise and sleep help me.

[Anonymous]

I don't know but find another PCP, if you can! Not all of them have waitlists like this! You can also see if you can talk to somebody at your OBGYN's office. If you need help sorting all that out, don't feel ashamed to ask a friend or your husband.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way same times of the month as well the sheer rage I feel is very concerning. I have just tried to stay to myself but can't always do that. Chamomile tea at night two bags steeped for 10 min sometimes takes the edge off but makes me very sleepy the next day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know but find another PCP, if you can! Not all of them have waitlists like this! You can also see if you can talk to somebody at your OBGYN's office. If you need help sorting all that out, don't feel ashamed to ask a friend or your husband.

I found another PCP who can see me in august. I don’t have an ob gyn anymore. I get my Pap smears at the internist. I am looking into telehealth psychiatrists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way same times of the month as well the sheer rage I feel is very concerning. I have just tried to stay to myself but can't always do that. Chamomile tea at night two bags steeped for 10 min sometimes takes the edge off but makes me very sleepy the next day.

I have this too but my doctor told me the rage part is unlikely menopause/peri related. ☹️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way same times of the month as well the sheer rage I feel is very concerning. I have just tried to stay to myself but can't always do that. Chamomile tea at night two bags steeped for 10 min sometimes takes the edge off but makes me very sleepy the next day.

I have this too but my doctor told me the rage part is unlikely menopause/peri related. ☹️

Does the doc dismiss any link between the anger and peri/menopause or is there something specific in your case?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way same times of the month as well the sheer rage I feel is very concerning. I have just tried to stay to myself but can't always do that. Chamomile tea at night two bags steeped for 10 min sometimes takes the edge off but makes me very sleepy the next day.

I have this too but my doctor told me the rage part is unlikely menopause/peri related. ☹️

I don't agree with your Dr.'s assessment. It is at least somewhat related. However... peri/meno happen to coincide with a very busy and stressful period in many women's lives. Most women 45-55 have some combination of the following: peak productivity and stress in their careers, children still at home who require guidance and support, aging parents and family members who require more support than they used to, a home that requires some level of maintenance to keep running, a spouse who needs emotional or physical support... and this is best case scenario without special needs, illness or physical limitations. It's all... a lot. A certain level of moodiness and rage at the pace of life and the fact that many women take on the bulk of the emotional labor in their families is to be expected.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way same times of the month as well the sheer rage I feel is very concerning. I have just tried to stay to myself but can't always do that. Chamomile tea at night two bags steeped for 10 min sometimes takes the edge off but makes me very sleepy the next day.

I have this too but my doctor told me the rage part is unlikely menopause/peri related. ☹️

Does the doc dismiss any link between the anger and peri/menopause or is there something specific in your case?

No. Nothing special to my case. I just had the sense he didn’t think they connected.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way same times of the month as well the sheer rage I feel is very concerning. I have just tried to stay to myself but can't always do that. Chamomile tea at night two bags steeped for 10 min sometimes takes the edge off but makes me very sleepy the next day.

I have this too but my doctor told me the rage part is unlikely menopause/peri related. ☹️

Well I should say he explicitly said he didn’t think they were.

Does the doc dismiss any link between the anger and peri/menopause or is there something specific in your case?

No. Nothing special to my case. I just had the sense he didn’t think they connected.

[Anonymous]

Birth control pills or other HRT, stat! Or that combined with a low dose SSR. Lots of people use one for the ragey period of their cycle.

I would use one of the menopause telehealth services for this. They’ll see you much sooner than late summer.

[Anonymous]

*SSRI

[Anonymous]

I’m on Prozac for this, 30 mg during the last part of my cycle. It’s been a lifesaver.

[Anonymous]

20 mg of fluoxetine helps somewhat.

[Anonymous]

Same here- I was seriously starting to frighten myself. I knew I was overreacting to things, but could not control my emotions. What helped me-- HRT prescription, cut caffeine back to one cup of coffee per day, no alcohol, more exercise. All those things helped me sleep better, which I am certain helped, too. It still feels worse than any PMS or pregnancy symptoms, but I can keep it under control