Would you be annoyed with you mom about this?

[Anonymous]

My mom and I brought tickets to a wine tasting event where you go from station to station tasting wines paired with appetizers. The event is from 5-7pm, tickets were around $30. I cannot leave work till 5, which would get me there at 5:15. She sent me a hostile text saying she planned to uber over alone and get there "at the actual start time," rather than me picking her up (I WFH and literally live three blocks away from her). This just strikes me as rude and unnecessary. If it were a sit down event it would make sense, but for something where you walk around at your own pace, I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

I don't like arriving late for events, although for this one it's presumably fine, and you'll be 15 minutes late. But I think it's understandable that your mother wants to be on time. She shouldn't have said it quite like that... but maybe you're habitually tardy?

[Anonymous]

This is not even remotely a hill to die on.

[Anonymous]

If my mother sent that to me I would never in a million years call it “hostile” but I assume you have reasons to.

[Anonymous]

What was the hostile part of the text. Wanting to be there at the actual start time, and calling the actual start time the actual start time, isn't hostile especially since she proposed a way to get there that isn't any kind of burden for you.

If she demanded you leave work, and then sent the text about "actual start time" that would be hostile.

I'd just send "Thanks for figuring it out, I'll see you there!"

[Anonymous]

I can see the hostility. There's no way to say "actual" about this without sounding iike an a-hole. Which is what your mom is being. Just tell her you'll meet her there.

[Anonymous]

I hate being late and I would do the same as your mom.

[Anonymous]

You’re clearly looking for a reason to be offended about something. Find the source of the problem and focus on that instead.

[Anonymous]

If I were her I'd be annoyed that you coordinated to buy tickets to something together and then you didn't actually prioritize it and her. She has a right to be irritated - you should have better managed your schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were her I'd be annoyed that you coordinated to buy tickets to something together and then you didn't actually prioritize it and her. She has a right to be irritated - you should have better managed your schedule.

This is not a theatrical performance where the curtain goes up at 5 on the dot. It's a come when you can between 5-7. Just because mom has nothing else going on that day doesn't daughter has to drop everything and leave work early and be irritated about waiting 15 whole minutes.

[Anonymous]

If I were her I'd be annoyed that you coordinated to buy tickets to something together and then you didn't actually prioritize it and her. She has a right to be irritated - you should have better managed your schedule.

Unfortunately, that wasn't possible, given that an unexpected requirement arose at work that no one else could cover. I explained that, apologized to her, and also explained that I would make sure to end by no later than 5pm.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't want to ride with you, and you're in a snit? For what? Are you worried you won't be able to drive there without Mommy to help you? She's a grown adult and she can get there on her own, when it suits her. Are you a grown adult who can get their on your own, when it suits you?

[Anonymous]

She likely doesn't trust that you will actually by done at 5 and doesn't want to wait around for you.

[Anonymous]

Just let her take an Uber and move on. This is entirely silly — meaning both of you are bing silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She likely doesn't trust that you will actually by done at 5 and doesn't want to wait around for you.

Who wants to drink alone? I see the Boomer haters haven't found this thread yet to tell us how right daughter is and how entitled and selfish mom is. This thread will take a serious turn soon.