HS Bully Died of Cancer

[Anonymous]

I found out yesterday that a woman who bullied me in high school died of cancer recently. We are in our 50s. It was really strange to look her up online and see what she did with her life. No one ever wants to wish something bad on someone, but of course my first thought when I found out was “Wasn’t that the girl who bullied me?”. I had it tough then and I’ve overcome a lot. Posting here because I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my husband or current friends.

[Anonymous]

It's ok to feel a glimmer of happiness OP. We won't hold it against you here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found out yesterday that a woman who bullied me in high school died of cancer recently. We are in our 50s. It was really strange to look her up online and see what she did with her life. No one ever wants to wish something bad on someone, but of course my first thought when I found out was “Wasn’t that the girl who bullied me?”. I had it tough then and I’ve overcome a lot. Posting here because I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my husband or current friends.

You should be, and I say that as someone who's still traumatized from the bullying they went through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's ok to feel a glimmer of happiness OP. We won't hold it against you here.

OP: LOL Thx

[Anonymous]

schadenfreude is a real thing. It's okay, OP.

[Anonymous]

It's hard to not thank Karma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found out yesterday that a woman who bullied me in high school died of cancer recently. We are in our 50s. It was really strange to look her up online and see what she did with her life. No one ever wants to wish something bad on someone, but of course my first thought when I found out was “Wasn’t that the girl who bullied me?”. I had it tough then and I’ve overcome a lot. Posting here because I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my husband or current friends.

What's embarrassing about talking about it? I think it's perfectly fine.

[Anonymous]

I recently came across the news that an elementary school bully had died of cancer. Looking at her obituary gave me a glimpse of her life -- un wed mother with 2 kids from 2 different dads, very christian, close with her family. It was hard to have ill feelings toward her as it seemed like that the mean, cruel person that I knew at 10 years old went on to become a better person later in life.

[Anonymous]

I am 41 and I recently found out that a boy who tormented me and actually stabbed me with a safety pin died from drugs. I also don't know how to feel about it. Part of me is able to think: OK self, you are doing well in life and you need to move on. The other part feels sad because he must have been tormented. Another is glad I didn't catch a disease from the safety pin.

[Anonymous]

I'd never voice it out loud either, but I think it's normal to feel this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found out yesterday that a woman who bullied me in high school died of cancer recently. We are in our 50s. It was really strange to look her up online and see what she did with her life. No one ever wants to wish something bad on someone, but of course my first thought when I found out was “Wasn’t that the girl who bullied me?”. I had it tough then and I’ve overcome a lot. Posting here because I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my husband or current friends.

What's embarrassing about talking about it? I think it's perfectly fine.

OP: I guess I’m still embarrassed to have been on the receiving end of someone else’s emotional problems, to have been identified as a target.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she became a better person after high school, and maybe she didn't. Either way, as far as you know, it's good riddance to the b1tch, and it's perfectly fine to feel that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Posting here because I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my husband or current friends.

You should be, and I say that as someone who's still traumatized from the bullying they went through.

People shouldn't be embarrassed to talk about being bullied when they were younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found out yesterday that a woman who bullied me in high school died of cancer recently. We are in our 50s. It was really strange to look her up online and see what she did with her life. No one ever wants to wish something bad on someone, but of course my first thought when I found out was “Wasn’t that the girl who bullied me?”. I had it tough then and I’ve overcome a lot. Posting here because I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my husband or current friends.

What's embarrassing about talking about it? I think it's perfectly fine.

OP: I guess I’m still embarrassed to have been on the receiving end of someone else’s emotional problems, to have been identified as a target.

That’s silly. You didn’t ask for it. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found out yesterday that a woman who bullied me in high school died of cancer recently. We are in our 50s. It was really strange to look her up online and see what she did with her life. No one ever wants to wish something bad on someone, but of course my first thought when I found out was “Wasn’t that the girl who bullied me?”. I had it tough then and I’ve overcome a lot. Posting here because I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my husband or current friends.

What's embarrassing about talking about it? I think it's perfectly fine.

OP: I guess I’m still embarrassed to have been on the receiving end of someone else’s emotional problems, to have been identified as a target.

That’s what you’re embarrassed about?! I assumed you meant it was embarrassing that you were happy she died.