Do I tell them?

[Anonymous]

AC's are aware of exDH's GF and his plan to have more kids with her, which presumably means getting married. Do I tell them he is shopping for an engagement ring? Don't ask me how I know, but I do. Or MMOB? One AC is taking this really hard, so not sure if me gently telling the news is better than him just dropping it like a bomb. What would you want to have happen? Thanks.

[Anonymous]

This is on exDH to tell them, and on him to deal with his adult kids' emotions surrounding it.

[Anonymous]

What on earth? Let me guess, you are the mom who held the kids hostage because you needed to hate him and now he doesn't have a relationship with him. No, he can tell them. Stop spying on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth? Let me guess, you are the mom who held the kids hostage because you needed to hate him and now he doesn't have a relationship with him. No, he can tell them. Stop spying on them.

F off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AC's are aware of exDH's GF and his plan to have more kids with her, which presumably means getting married. Do I tell them he is shopping for an engagement ring? Don't ask me how I know, but I do. Or MMOB? One AC is taking this really hard, so not sure if me gently telling the news is better than him just dropping it like a bomb. What would you want to have happen? Thanks.

You should reach out to your ex and tell him that you know and even though its none of your business, you would like him to get kids in confidence so they know he cares. Say that even if he doesn't care, hearing it may motivate him to get them involved. Don't mention his potential kids as that's just a hypothetical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth? Let me guess, you are the mom who held the kids hostage because you needed to hate him and now he doesn't have a relationship with him. No, he can tell them. Stop spying on them.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What on earth? Let me guess, you are the mom who held the kids hostage because you needed to hate him and now he doesn't have a relationship with him. No, he can tell them. Stop spying on them.

F off.

+100 We got here a salty second wife who started a family with a 70 year old and resents her step kids who are the same age as her. LOL. I never understand these women.

OP, let your ex break the news. You can act surprised or not, but don't let the news come from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What on earth? Let me guess, you are the mom who held the kids hostage because you needed to hate him and now he doesn't have a relationship with him. No, he can tell them. Stop spying on them.

+1

+2. Op, you are projecting your feelings onto your children and being a drama llama. Your ex has the right to move on, and you are the one who is hurt.

[Anonymous]

OP, ffs move on with your own life. Dear god let it go. Your children are adults!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, ffs move on with your own life. Dear god let it go. Your children are adults!

They still need their parents.

Nobody likes young second wives & their desire to replace first wife’s kids, sorry.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, ffs move on with your own life. Dear god let it go. Your children are adults!

They still need their parents.

Nobody likes young second wives & their desire to replace first wife’s kids, sorry.

No, they don't. Stop infantalizng your adult children. Let them grow up and learn to manage their emotions.

It sounds like you're unable to move on from your "mom" role. Time for you to find some new hobbies, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, ffs move on with your own life. Dear god let it go. Your children are adults!

They still need their parents.

Nobody likes young second wives & their desire to replace first wife’s kids, sorry.

No, they don't. Stop infantalizng your adult children. Let them grow up and learn to manage their emotions.

It sounds like you're unable to move on from your "mom" role. Time for you to find some new hobbies, OP.

Of course they do.

Dad & second wife want to have a second family to replace the first kids. Discard ‘‘em cuz they’re not cute anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, ffs move on with your own life. Dear god let it go. Your children are adults!

They still need their parents.

Nobody likes young second wives & their desire to replace first wife’s kids, sorry.

No, they don't. Stop infantalizng your adult children. Let them grow up and learn to manage their emotions.

It sounds like you're unable to move on from your "mom" role. Time for you to find some new hobbies, OP.

Of course they do.

Dad & second wife want to have a second family to replace the first kids. Discard ‘‘em cuz they’re not cute anymore.

OP, you are mental. Move on and don't be a stereotype or meme.

[Anonymous]

Time to get a life OP. Seriously.