Why don’t kids share bedrooms anymore? Why is it considered shocking or abusive to suggest that kids could share one?

[Anonymous]

For some reason, it’s become an entitlement for every little Larla & Larlo to have their own bedroom from toddlerhood. It’s bizarre to me.

[Anonymous]

Why don't yours? Lots of reasons including we have enough bedrooms per kid as we don't have more kids than we can house. Some kids do better with personal space. Some kids are playmates and will play vs. sleep. And, because we can. Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

I haven't noticed this at all.

If families have only 2 kids then yes, in my neighborhood, most houses have 3br so there isn't any sharing.

Families with 4 kids always have kids share, in my neighborhood. And all of my friends from college who live in Manhattan, their kids share. And my patients at my job, usually live in smaller apartments or multigenerational homes, and their kids always share.

Basically, it's just your bubble.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what you're talking about. Some of my kids share a room. I know two of the kids across the street share a bedroom too.

[Anonymous]

My friend has 3 girls and they live in a 4br house. Their girls all 3 share a room with bunk beds. It is what their girls prefer, and their parents like it too because it simplifies bedtime and there are no hassles with "newness" of sharing a room when they travel.

[Anonymous]

I only see/hear of people object to opposite gender sharing bed rooms.

[Anonymous]

My 3 little girls share! They could actually spread out, but they are used to sharing since we used to live in a 2BR, and now we live in a 5br but they are scared to sleep alone! I'm sure that as the eldest approaches puberty she may become interested in having her own room.

[Anonymous]

My kids share a room. We live in a 4 br house but have 2 home offices taking up 2 of the bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

It is not considered shocking or abusive to share a room lol. We aren’t going to do it because we have the extra bedroom and are not trying to make our lives more difficult by managing two different toddler/baby sleep schedules in one room. But if we have a third, maybe the older two will share. Plenty of kids still share.

[Anonymous]

I was born in the 80s and didn't know anyone who shared bedrooms. My parents (born in 50s) shared bedrooms with their siblings but that was because they had large families.

The kids I know who share bedrooms are doing so for reasons that I don't agree with- like so that their parent could have an office, a full time dedicated guest room (when guests only come a few times a year) or their parents purposefully got a super small home. All those decisions are valid, but they weren't ones I'd make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only see/hear of people object to opposite gender sharing bed rooms.

Maybe around here, but in Manhattan (or among low income families with multiple kids), it's super normal even to have boy/girl room sharing. Heck my brother lives in Manhattan and makes about 1mil a year and they live in a 2 bedroom, and their 12 year old boy/girl twins share. They separate the room with one of those decorative folding room separaters for when they want privacy.

[Anonymous]

As a foreign parent living here with children, what shocked me most (apart from the gun thing, and the healthcare thing) is that the American Dream suggest each child should have their own bedroom... but then come school field trips, and it's 4 to a room, with 2 to a bed. And then college, with tiny dorms and several kids per room. In my home country, where siblings often shared bedrooms, no one is expected to share beds on field trips, and there are no campuses with shared dorms - students get rentals, with one person per room.

The USA is a wonderful country in general, but certain things about it don't make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
As a foreign parent living here with children, what shocked me most (apart from the gun thing, and the healthcare thing) is that the American Dream suggest each child should have their own bedroom... but then come school field trips, and it's 4 to a room, with 2 to a bed. And then college, with tiny dorms and several kids per room. In my home country, where siblings often shared bedrooms, no one is expected to share beds on field trips, and there are no campuses with shared dorms - students get rentals, with one person per room.

The USA is a wonderful country in general, but certain things about it don't make sense.

What country are you from to where the school class goes on a trip and each child gets their own individual hotel room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't yours? Lots of reasons including we have enough bedrooms per kid as we don't have more kids than we can house. Some kids do better with personal space. Some kids are playmates and will play vs. sleep. And, because we can. Why do you care?

They do.

Because it’s annoying to hear whiny entitled people complain that the area “needs more housing” when what they really mean is that we “need more big houses with many bedrooms.”

We stretched to buy a 3BR in a quiet, close-in neighborhood

[Anonymous]

My son was an only for 5 years and then DD was born. We had a 4br house. One rolm was for guests, the other was used as an office, then there was our room, and the fourth was a reading/ playroom for DS.

We had enough rooms for DD to have her own room.

If we had 3+ kids then sharing might have been more of a factor but we’re done having kids and we wouldn’t have bought a SFH with only 2 bedrooms.