What do you do when you’re inner critic is so loud?

[Anonymous]

And I’ve gained 10 to 12 pounds fast, partially because I stopped being so strict about IF and partially probably because I’m getting older.

I’ve been saying the meanest things about myself in my head. If I had more discipline, this would not be an issue. But I am so sick of “having discipline”. logically I have a very healthy sense of self and see this weight as a non-issue.

But then there’s this random person in my head who is so disappointed in me.

Wtf. How do you manage this self talk and kick yourself to be kinder!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I’ve gained 10 to 12 pounds fast, partially because I stopped being so strict about IF and partially probably because I’m getting older.

I’ve been saying the meanest things about myself in my head. If I had more discipline, this would not be an issue. But I am so sick of “having discipline”. logically I have a very healthy sense of self and see this weight as a non-issue.

But then there’s this random person in my head who is so disappointed in me.

Wtf. How do you manage this self talk and kick yourself to be kinder!

I hear what you are saying, and you should be kinder to yourself. But for me, my inner voice is critical and usually correct.

[Anonymous]

Read Beck Diet Book - cognitive behavioral therapy approach to deal with thoughts and feelings about weight loss

How old are you? According to most recent book by Dr William Li - metabolism doesn’t change until after 60

[Anonymous]

Isn't this something that the Noom diet app works on? At least that is what I have heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I’ve gained 10 to 12 pounds fast, partially because I stopped being so strict about IF and partially probably because I’m getting older.

I’ve been saying the meanest things about myself in my head. If I had more discipline, this would not be an issue. But I am so sick of “having discipline”. logically I have a very healthy sense of self and see this weight as a non-issue.

But then there’s this random person in my head who is so disappointed in me.

Wtf. How do you manage this self talk and kick yourself to be kinder!

When I practice meditation, I practice noticing this "random person," but not engaging with it. So it's like watching the random person rant about this and that, instead of actually listening to/debating with/giving any credence to it. The more I practice, the more I'm able to look at what the random person is saying, and wonder what makes it say that -- if it's coming from some sort of script I unconsciously absorbed as a child, etc., and decide whether this random person is worth listening to -- or not.

I can say now that after a long time of meditation practice, the random person doesn't talk much anymore at all -- unless it is saying something that is actually worth listening to.

[Anonymous]

All thoughts, good and bad, are just thoughts. You are free to choose the ones that are useful, and dismiss the ones that aren't.

[Anonymous]

I learn to spell and use grammar first.

[Anonymous]

Your inner critic is correct. You should eat less and move more. Age is not an excuse.

[Anonymous]

Well how much is it worth to you to lose the extra weight?

If you are happy with yourself and feel good then keep doing what you're doing. There no shame in that.

If you want to lose the weight then you will need to be more disciplined. But that doesn't mean being miserable. If you're miserable, then its not sustainable. You just need to find a diet/way of eating that works for you.

[Anonymous]

Noom is helping me with this.