40+ never been engaged/married
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Anonymous
| What does this say about someone? Is it different than if they're male or female? |
Anonymous
| This is the kind of question that's so vague that posters here are going to ask this, so I'll just go ahead and do it: Are YOU the one who's "40+ never been engaged/married," and you're concerned about how others see you, or is this about meeting someone you want to date who is in this category and you wonder if it's a red flag? You will get answers all over the map unless you're more specific, OP. Just noting that because it's how DCUM seems to work. |
Anonymous
It says they are unlucky to not find a good partner or lucky to not find a bad partner or not interested in partnerships. |
Anonymous
| Impossible to know. |
Anonymous
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I don't really think about it OP.
It may mean they are from a dsyfunctional family. Or they are from an exceedingly religious family. Or, that they never really wanted to get married for a whole host of reasons. |
Anonymous
| It says that they’re highly independent & don’t succumb to peer pressure. |
Anonymous
| I am 46 and not married. I have two cousins in their early and mid 50's (not sisters) who are also single. Just never met the right guy. We're all educated, fun, stable, from solid families, employed, mentally and physically healthy, etc. |
Anonymous
| One of my aunts never married or dated; she is in her mid 60s. She has worked full-time since college & lived at my grandparents’ house with them for decades. Both of my grandparents are now deceased so she lives in an apartment now. She lives in my hometown, where my parents live & where she was born & raised. She has many female friends. She was very involved in raising my siblings & I and is now very involved with my niece. I love her very much and I don’t sense any regret from her. |
Anonymous
| I just think they never met the right person. |
Anonymous
| I've known women that spent their 30s in long relationships (4-6 years) that did not result in marriage, then suddenly they are in their 40s. The men I know that did not get married seem to like the single life. So maybe it's more likely that I would assume the man is single by choice and the woman is not. |
Anonymous
| Ask brunch granny |
Anonymous
| Why is engaged-but-not-married different than never engaged? What about long term non marriage relationships? There are so many reasons this could be someone’s life/choice. |
Anonymous
Teehee |
Anonymous
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A friend of mine is 42, a pre-school teacher, and she's had two broken engagements. She's in DESPAIR about finding a guy with whom to settle down. She was engaged to a man who did not want children and she agreed to that and he eventually broke it off. I told her to have/adopt a child first, and then you'll attract a different kind of man who wants to be a father, but single motherhood is HARD (I did it with a lot of family support $$$ which she does not have).
I'd really like to help her--she's slim and attractive and WONDERFUL. She gets so depressed and hates to be alone. There's a limit to how often you can put yourself out there, get rejected, meet all the frogs who are not princes in disguise, etc. and keep your spirits up. I don't know what to say to her. She gets SO depressed (and horny) and feels so alone. I agree that at age 40 all kinds of alarms go off. |
Anonymous
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I know a few older Gen X women who contracted herpes in college and then basically stopped dating. It’s sad. I know other terrific women who are pushing 40 and have struggled. Both are nice (one is very opinionated; both are in therapy).
I know a few older men who never married. Two are straight. One is attractive and kind, the other isn’t. No clue why the nice guy never married. Who knows? |