Are you scared of being dependent on others in old age?

[Anonymous]

Do you feel fear of living for too pong and becoming dependent on others for even minor tasks?

[Anonymous]

Nope. I plan to die before that point. Some fates are worse than death. Dependency, especially in private situations, i.e. incontinence, is one of them.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I'm late 40s and have lived alone for 25 years. This week I had a fall at home and couldn't walk. My neighbor helped me so much. I feel like this has shown me my potential future and I hate being dependent on others.

[Anonymous]

No, I would just pay for the service of home care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I plan to die before that point. Some fates are worse than death. Dependency, especially in private situations, i.e. incontinence, is one of them.

That’s not how it works.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I know my kids will help me even to the point of moving in with me if needed. I know this because they have told me.

Also I live in a community where everyone helps everyone else in so many ways. Currently it's me helping others but I know that one day it might be me who needs help.

[Anonymous]

Yep absolutely scared of this especially since I wasn’t able to have kids.

[Anonymous]

Nope, because I have enough money, but I am not unaware of making a lquick death if that serves my people better than me being alive. Right at this moment, me being alive is important to people.

[Anonymous]

How are you going to limit length of your life? Suicide is illegal, unacceptable in most religions and traumatic for loved ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are you going to limit length of your life? Suicide is illegal, unacceptable in most religions and traumatic for loved ones.

The first thing you can do is make sure you have an advance directive in place and make sure everyone knows your plans. I am refusing all medical care once my memory has started to go.

With some diagnoses you will have time to make plans. There are organizations that can help if you want out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are you going to limit length of your life? Suicide is illegal, unacceptable in most religions and traumatic for loved ones.

I'm not the pp that said that, but I feel the same way.

I won't seek medical treatment after a certain point. I think surgery, chemo, and other "life saving" interventions after age 70 is wasteful and absurd.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I think some people on here assume they will stay their lovely selves in old age and the adult children will be thrilled to help.They also assume their adult children won't have any of their own all-consuming life stressors or their own illness. It all happens in far too many cases.

I have seen what angry/combative/paranoid dementia looks like with my mother and I give my children permission to drop me off at Memory care and not look back. Nobody should have to deal with abuse. My dad did not become abusive but declined into not being able to do ANYTHING without assistance and he was miserable and suffering. I really want to track cognition and fly off to a country that allows assisted suicide before I am too far gone to consent, but in the meantime i am eating lots of greens, getting magnesium, managing mental health, learning new things, and doing all the things in the hope I can some how prevent this horrible fate.

[Anonymous]

Yes. After seeing my mom’s decline over the years and how much help she needed. And then having to just sit and watch after the last incident as she deteriorated until she died. It’s awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep absolutely scared of this especially since I wasn’t able to have kids.

I am sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but I know my kids will help me even to the point of moving in with me if needed. I know this because they have told me.

Also I live in a community where everyone helps everyone else in so many ways. Currently it's me helping others but I know that one day it might be me who needs help.

You must not live in the US and in a country/culture with no ASL facilities. Sad.