How “cringe” am I?
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Anonymous
| Embarrassed… I matched with a guy on a dating app and let it expire because I was talking/seeing someone else and the guy never started up a chat. I found him on LinkedIn and connected there, sent a very short message saying hi and that I was open to chatting on a different medium if he’s interested, otherwise no worries. I told a friend she she was like OMG I can’t believe you did that! Is that awful that I reached out that way? His first name and workplace were listed in his dating profile and he’s got lots of online presence so it’s not like it was hard to find him. |
Anonymous
| Stalker!!! Cringe level off the charts! |
Anonymous
| Wow, that’s over the top stalker behavior. I hope he reports you to the app. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t have contacted him outside of the app. |
Anonymous
| OP - is it really stalker level? All I did was type in his first name and workplace which was on the app in the first place… don’t most women Google their dates anyway? Okay, lesson learned! |
Anonymous
| Yikes on bikes, OP. It’s one thing to look, it’s a whole other thing to reach out via another app. |
Anonymous
| That’s pretty stalker. |
Anonymous
Of course but you don’t tell them that! |
Anonymous
This isn't cringe it's insane. If a guy did this to me I'd be frightened. |
Anonymous
I’m the pp. Yep, I’d be concerned about his lack of social awareness and more than a little creeped out about boundaries. |
Anonymous
| OP - Okay I guess I'm super cringe! I'm new to dating and online dating although I'm middle aged. I guess I'll let that one go. Should I have reached out on a different platform (like fb or instagram?) I thought LinkedIn would be less creepy because my info is publicly available there whereas my other social media are all private... |
Anonymous
No. You match on that platform that's where you communicate until one party gives the other their contact info. Do not tale it upon yourself to find them anywhere else. You matched and it expired - you missed that shot. Move on. What you should be learning from this is that you can talk to multiple people simultaneously until you decide to move forward with one. Don't focus only on one guy until at goes nowhere and then think "let me swing by his office" about the guy you ignored last month. |
Anonymous
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People use their full real names (first/last) on dating sites????
Married way back before OLD. |
Anonymous
| That wasn't cool of you, OP. Don't do that again. |
Anonymous
| Meh, shoot your shot, OP. |