Had a second date planned tonight. She canceled.
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Anonymous
| We were supposed to have our second date tonight. I’ve had a crush on this girl for years and our first date went so well, so naturally I was so excited for tonight. We made plans to meet up at 7:30 and she just texted me to cancel. She said her ex contacted her and it really threw her off and didn’t think it would be fair to go out with me tonight with her head swirling. Obviously I’m really bumbed even though I know that’s how dating goes. My issue is, why are you going on dates if you’re not ready to date?? That’s what kind of making irritated. Why even waste my time? |
Anonymous
| Sometimes people date to help get over an ex, but if they came back that can make them realize they aren't really over them and aren't ready to move onto a new relationship. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like she got caught off guard and texted you so she wouldn’t waste your time. Move on, it’s only been one date. |
Anonymous
Very TMI to tell you she’s in a tizzy caused by her ex. I’d abort mission and be grateful only this little of your time has been wasted. Your impression is correct, she’s not serious about being ready to date. |
Anonymous
| She thought she was ready. My ex contacted me when I'd just started dating someone new and it made me realize how verbally abusive and emotionally manipulative he'd been and how glad I was to have dumped him. It can go either way. |
Anonymous
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I don't want to be a downer, but personally, I'd never tell you that if I were interested in you. I would've said I wasn't feeling well or made up some other excuse. But maybe she's just extremely honest at all times.
I'm sorry, OP. That sucks. I hope I'm wrong and she really is interested. |
Anonymous
| I don't think it's bad that she was honest. I would be sad but give her some time. Step back now, ball is in her court. |
Anonymous
Damned if you, damned if you don’t. Most people give some obvious bs excuse or either ghost after one date. She was honest with op and did it in a gentle way. OP mentioned that he has known her for years, so even more of a reason to tell him exactly why. How many posts do we see on here about people having “great” first dates and then are confused and want answers why the person isn’t interested/what happened. OP doesn’t have to wonder. I find her honest very refreshing. |
Anonymous
| She’s not interested, move on. |
Anonymous
| I agree. She is a class act. Probably respects OP if she told him the truth. No necessarily into OP, but I’d say yea if she showed interest sometime in the future. No red flags here. |
Anonymous
Sorry, I was agreeing with the statement that her honesty is refreshing. |
Anonymous
Don't make it about you. Would you rather she go out with you and then have a terrible time? |
Anonymous
| I ghost anyone who stands me up and so should you OP. |
Anonymous
| I'd be guarded if you ever go out with her again. If she isn't over an ex. Better chance looking elsewhere |
Anonymous
It’s a good thing she didn’t stand op up…. |