Vacation rental in sketchy neighborhood

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[Post New]03/15/2023 14:51
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Anonymous
Six months ago, I reserved a place in a city I've been to and am fine with. I'm learning that DH has higher standards and will likely be furious about the surrounding neighborhood - no, i wont say which town in case he's lurking. I've looked within 30 miles for another place, but everything halfway decent is booked. Hotels, too. Do I confess, knowing he'll insist on canceling? Leaning toward this.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:17
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Anonymous
This seems more appropriate for the Relationship forum rather than travel.

Is he high maintenance in general?
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:19
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Anonymous
He can find a place then
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:21
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Anonymous
Why waste a vacation at a place you described as sketchy?
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:23
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Anonymous
If he actually fears for your personal safety (even if you think that fear is overblown), it's worth a discussion of how to adapt: Maybe take cab/Uber everywhere, for instance. If he will just be annoyed because he doesn't like staying near poor people or walking by trash, then I think it's not worth discussing.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:25
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Why waste a vacation at a place you described as sketchy?


We won't be there much. This is mostly a museum trip.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:26
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Anonymous wrote:This seems more appropriate for the Relationship forum rather than travel.

Is he high maintenance in general?


I debated where to put it! And sort of, when it comes to some things. I think he might have OCD, honestly. He hates...dirty. which is why I chose this newly renovated place.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:29
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Anonymous
Philly? NYC?
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:33
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This seems more appropriate for the Relationship forum rather than travel.

Is he high maintenance in general?


I debated where to put it! And sort of, when it comes to some things. I think he might have OCD, honestly. He hates...dirty. which is why I chose this newly renovated place.


Is there anyway to arrive after dark, so he won't see the neighborhood that clearly?

I'm only half joking, but I get what you're dealing with. My H is more paranoid than I am. Years ago we were traveling in Turkey when a terrorist bombing happened in the capital, which was not where we were but I knew he would freak out at the news, so I didn't tell him.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:37
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Philly? NYC?


Smaller, which is why I don't want to say where. Think like 50k population.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:40
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Anonymous wrote:Six months ago, I reserved a place in a city I've been to and am fine with. I'm learning that DH has higher standards and will likely be furious about the surrounding neighborhood - no, i wont say which town in case he's lurking. I've looked within 30 miles for another place, but everything halfway decent is booked. Hotels, too. Do I confess, knowing he'll insist on canceling? Leaning toward this.


This seems super weird to me. Are you like an arranged marriage or something? How are you just learning this?
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:41
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Six months ago, I reserved a place in a city I've been to and am fine with. I'm learning that DH has higher standards and will likely be furious about the surrounding neighborhood - no, i wont say which town in case he's lurking. I've looked within 30 miles for another place, but everything halfway decent is booked. Hotels, too. Do I confess, knowing he'll insist on canceling? Leaning toward this.


This seems super weird to me. Are you like an arranged marriage or something? How are you just learning this?


Well...it's more that he's becoming more rigid about certain things.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:45
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why waste a vacation at a place you described as sketchy?


We won't be there much. This is mostly a museum trip.


If it truly is a sketch neighborhood, you will be marked the minute you roll into to town.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:48
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Anonymous
Go, and if he wants to find a different place to stay he can take charge of that. Things often open up last minute when there are cancellations. Agree to take cabs or Uber rather than walk if you won't have a car there....gives him less time to notice the neighborhood. Curious which smaller town has enough museum for a whole vacation... crystal bridges?.
[Post New]03/15/2023 15:51
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Anonymous
Is it dangerous?? That doesn’t sound ideal to me either.
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