So are my evenings done?

[Anonymous]

My 10 year old has so much trouble falling asleep. My husband and I used to get two hours of grown up TV time 8:00-10:00 and then to bed at a reasonable hour. Now my kid doesn’t fall asleep til 10:00 herself. And she’s too anxious to enjoy shows like “The Last of Us” with us. I get that daylight savings is still playing out but this blows. When will there be me time? Never again? Only if I go out?

[Anonymous]

LOLOL. Did you expect your kid to keep an 8PM bedtime forever?

[Anonymous]

yes. I am present (not just here, but actually present) from 6am until 10pm or later. That said after nine, they know to leave me alone. They can read, listen to alexa, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOLOL. Did you expect your kid to keep an 8PM bedtime forever?

LOL.

[Anonymous]

I don't think any 10 year old should watch The Last of Us, even if they are not anxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOLOL. Did you expect your kid to keep an 8PM bedtime forever?

I want to know this also!


OP, your kid will do his/her own thing and at bedtime you’ll chat a little, say good night and off they’ll go! At 10, my kid went to sleep around 8:30/9pm. My child is 12 now and goes to bed at 10pm. My husband and I hang out and watch TV in our bedroom or living room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOLOL. Did you expect your kid to keep an 8PM bedtime forever?

I thought it’d change in middle school. Not fourth grade. I thought she’d be in bed at nine in 4th grade.

[Anonymous]

What.
The adults are watching a show..she can read or do anything else in her room.or another room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOLOL. Did you expect your kid to keep an 8PM bedtime forever?

I thought it’d change in middle school. Not fourth grade. I thought she’d be in bed at nine in 4th grade.

She may not be able to fall asleep, but you set the bedtime. If you want it to be 9:00, it’s 9:00. If she can’t sleep, she may read until whatever time you say, and then it’s lights out. She doesn’t get to hang out with you past bedtime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOLOL. Did you expect your kid to keep an 8PM bedtime forever?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOLOL. Did you expect your kid to keep an 8PM bedtime forever?

I thought it’d change in middle school. Not fourth grade. I thought she’d be in bed at nine in 4th grade.

Mine were definitely in bed by 9 at 4th grade. Now 6th and 7th graders still in bed by 9 or 930 but might read for an hour.

[Anonymous]

Put a tv in your bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old has so much trouble falling asleep. My husband and I used to get two hours of grown up TV time 8:00-10:00 and then to bed at a reasonable hour. Now my kid doesn’t fall asleep til 10:00 herself. And she’s too anxious to enjoy shows like “The Last of Us” with us. I get that daylight savings is still playing out but this blows. When will there be me time? Never again? Only if I go out?

How active is the kid? My 10 year old still goes to sleep at 8 and so did my older child. It did change in middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes. I am present (not just here, but actually present) from 6am until 10pm or later. That said after nine, they know to leave me alone. They can read, listen to alexa, whatever.

+1

Evenings are the busiest time for us now (3 kids- tween and young teens). Lots and lots of driving to activities, help with or monitoring of homework, getting stuff together for the next day including making sure everyone knows schedule/pickup time/special plans etc etc. Sometimes will watch a show together but honestly evenings are busy and I have to be “on” most of the time. They do try to leave us alone after 9ish but doesn’t always happen.

On the flip side, we actually have a lot more downtime on weekends than we once did (that is when we get time to relax, watch tv etc). It does depend on the weekend (some are still super busy) but the kids sleep until practically noon when they get the opportunity, and are often gone at sports practices or with friends (and we try to carpool when we can). Some weekends get busier if a lot of sports games but it varies a bit by season. When at home, they often want to relax too, since weekdays are so crazy.

[Anonymous]

OP, you seem like the kind of parent who complained when she had to get up at night to feed a baby.

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