50 year old singles

[Anonymous]

I know quite a few people that are single and never able to find someone. They are wealthy with good social skills and from low stress families with a mom and dad and they still practice their religion. All other siblings are married. I keep hearing about how they haven’t found someone yet but figure that’s probably not possible and they are really just gay and don’t want to tell their parents. Have you found this is usually the case? Why else would a religious person want to stay single into their 50s?

[Anonymous]

I have a religious-ish friend who is 48 and single. She just didn't find anyone. Definitely not gay.

if someone didn't want to tell their parents, well, I'd assume that they would... I don't know, "have a roommate" or something.

[Anonymous]

PS- I really thought this was about a case of SHingles.

[Anonymous]

They’re not gay, they’re just really annoying and no one can stand them.

[Anonymous]

They thought they would partner up but after a breakup they got used to their single life and for the most part enjoy it. They say they are open to a relationship (but often don’t put in any effort) and at some point say it would take a lot for them to give up the life they have, adjust to living with a person, etc.

[Anonymous]

My cousin will probably end up like this. Good job, decent looking and well dressed/takes care of herself, goes to church, great with kids, lots of friends. But she has some ridiculous requirements like 6’1” and up in height, which eliminates a lot of eligible men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not gay, they’re just really annoying and no one can stand them.

Yeah they are often just very difficult people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re not gay, they’re just really annoying and no one can stand them.

Yeah they are often just very difficult people

This is such an obnoxious assumption.

Probably made by people who settled who want to feel superior to single people so they feel better about their mediocre marriage

[Anonymous]

I never met the right person. I never met a man I liked enough to marry.

I’ve had a number of long term relationships. Several of the men very much wanted to marry me, but I just wasn’t….excited or certain enough to make the leap.

I have always been on the fence about the kids and am fine with not having them, so I didn’t have that pressure. Also, it’s actually pretty hard to find a guy who wants to get married AND not have kids.

Now, I’m kind of like, eh. That ship has sailed. If I meet some great guy and it’s financially and legally beneficial for us to marry, I’m open to it.. But my current boyfriend just has so much baggage. I enjoy having him in my life, but being financially tied to him doesn’t make sense for either of us. I’d screw up his kids ability to get financial aid, for example. His ex might try to argue that my assets mean he should be paying more child support. I just don’t want to wade into that.

I’m also seeing my friends’ marriages play out and honestly, in most cases, the men are getting a lot more out of the marriage than the women are. Marriage can really add to a woman’s workload and emotional stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never met the right person. I never met a man I liked enough to marry.

I’ve had a number of long term relationships. Several of the men very much wanted to marry me, but I just wasn’t….excited or certain enough to make the leap.

I have always been on the fence about the kids and am fine with not having them, so I didn’t have that pressure. Also, it’s actually pretty hard to find a guy who wants to get married AND not have kids.

Now, I’m kind of like, eh. That ship has sailed. If I meet some great guy and it’s financially and legally beneficial for us to marry, I’m open to it.. But my current boyfriend just has so much baggage. I enjoy having him in my life, but being financially tied to him doesn’t make sense for either of us. I’d screw up his kids ability to get financial aid, for example. His ex might try to argue that my assets mean he should be paying more child support. I just don’t want to wade into that.

I’m also seeing my friends’ marriages play out and honestly, in most cases, the men are getting a lot more out of the marriage than the women are. Marriage can really add to a woman’s workload and emotional stress.

Meant to add, I would love to be in a great marriage. I think it would be amazing and comforting to be married to a great guy you were really compatible with and good friends with. But I think that is pretty rare.

[Anonymous]

Some people are just unattractive and don’t put themselves out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just unattractive and don’t put themselves out there.

A lot of these people are attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just unattractive and don’t put themselves out there.

A lot of these people are attractive.

Are they women? There are a lot more dateable women out there than dateable men. Women are just more likely to be thoughtful and caring towards other, to take care of themselves physically, etc. It’s e easier for a man to find a reasonably attractive, nice, relationship oriented woman than vice versa.

[Anonymous]

So they don’t end up like the hundreds of sad DCUM marrieds who settle and then bemoan how their husbands do no housework, their wives are fat and lazy, their husbands don’t earn enough, their wives won’t go back to work, their wife doesn’t want sex, their husband doesn’t want sex, etc., etc.

In other words, they would rather be happy and go it alone than be saddled with some of the duds that clearly many people have settled for here on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just unattractive and don’t put themselves out there.

A lot of these people are attractive.

Are they women? There are a lot more dateable women out there than dateable men. Women are just more likely to be thoughtful and caring towards other, to take care of themselves physically, etc. It’s e easier for a man to find a reasonably attractive, nice, relationship oriented woman than vice versa.

I'm OP. A lot of them are attractive men. But also some attractive females. Maybe Momma's boys?