How to express Valentine’s Day is important?

[Anonymous]

New relationship and this is our first V day. How do I politely let my boyfriend know that it’s important to me that he make a big deal about Valentine’s Day?

[Anonymous]

You should’ve told him a week (or two) ago.

[Anonymous]

Right now? It's three days away - he doesn't have time to make a big deal about it if he wasn't already planning to. So just accept whatever he does or doesn't do with grace, and then after 2/14 has passed tell him "If we're still together next year, I want you to know now that Valentine's Day is important to me and I want a big fuss made that day, okay?"

[Anonymous]

You better hope he thinks it's important too

[Anonymous]

How new is this relationship?

Btw, I’m the PP who said you should have told him a week ago. I should’ve added that it’s too late to spring that on him

[Anonymous]

Please update us on how you told your boyfriend 3 days before Valentine's Day that it's a super important day to you and how that panned out. Then give us a short paragraph on why a super commercialized love day means so much to you in the first place 'cause, really?!?!

[Anonymous]

How new is the relationship? If it was under 3 months I would not expect all that much. Some flowers maybe? This holiday puts way too much pressure on new relationships.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We’ve been together 4 months. I don’t mind if we do something not on the actual day and a bit later. He has a ton of work travel this month so isn’t free on the actual day anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We’ve been together 4 months. I don’t mind if we do something not on the actual day and a bit later. He has a ton of work travel this month so isn’t free on the actual day anyways.

You need to let go of it happening this year's valentine's day.

[Anonymous]

It's not important, drop it.

[Anonymous]

Why does he need to make a big deal out of a Hallmark holiday?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I’m just generally a holiday person. I know everyone’s not like this and I don’t judge those who are not. It’s something that helps to make me feel appreciated in a relationship. Sometimes it’s easy to take your partner for granted and holidays are a built in reminder to replenish things. I want him to know how to love me the way i like and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

You're setting yourself up to be very disappointed. Not just this year, but every year going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m just generally a holiday person. I know everyone’s not like this and I don’t judge those who are not. It’s something that helps to make me feel appreciated in a relationship. Sometimes it’s easy to take your partner for granted and holidays are a built in reminder to replenish things. I want him to know how to love me the way i like and vice versa.

If it really was that important, you would have told him at least 3 weeks ago. Sounds like you want to set him up for a test that he will fail. You’ll then be hurt and play the victim.

This isn’t a good look. Try something new like dropping this “holiday as a test of love” nonsense. It’s fine to want gifts. It’s not okay to set people up to fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m just generally a holiday person. I know everyone’s not like this and I don’t judge those who are not. It’s something that helps to make me feel appreciated in a relationship. Sometimes it’s easy to take your partner for granted and holidays are a built in reminder to replenish things. I want him to know how to love me the way i like and vice versa.

If it really was that important, you would have told him at least 3 weeks ago. Sounds like you want to set him up for a test that he will fail. You’ll then be hurt and play the victim.

This isn’t a good look. Try something new like dropping this “holiday as a test of love” nonsense. It’s fine to want gifts. It’s not okay to set people up to fail.

+1.

Sorry OP but the ship has sailed for this year's. Give him wmenough time to spoil you next time.