How to express Valentine’s Day is important?

[Anonymous]

OP, do you feel appreciated every day by him? If yes, then he is a keeper and let this go.

[Anonymous]

OP do you want him to make the big deal to spoil you, or did you want to do something you plan together or you plan alone? If this is a "spoil me" thing -- don't. At 4 months in expectations and/or demands like this might be a quick ticket to not making it to 5 months.

But if you know his schedule this week, and if you are open to planning, YOU have time to make a special reservation and buy a gift or whatever it is you want to do. Maybe focus on something for both of you: like dinner + a hotel + champagne...not a fancy gift he may not reciprocate. And when you have a nice time mention you really like to do Valentine's Day BIG.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New relationship and this is our first V day. How do I politely let my boyfriend know that it’s important to me that he make a big deal about Valentine’s Day?

How about you grow up instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Pretty unanimous that I should not bring it up. Curious that if the timing was better say a month in advance, how you would advice I politely talk about this?

Why not just see what he does without any mention or prodding? Then you will likely know how he handles birthdays, holidays, anniversaries. If he is blah about them, poor planner, does not like to spend money, selfish, thinks too commercial - or, he is really sweet about them.

That is why it is called dating. You are learning about the person and what you are or are not willing to compromise on in a relationship.

Report back and let us know how it turned out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New relationship and this is our first V day. How do I politely let my boyfriend know that it’s important to me that he make a big deal about Valentine’s Day?

Why, exactly, is that on him? Are you planning something extravagant for him, or do you just want him to do something for you?

Also, Valentine's day is stupid beyond belief. Americans are set to spend $26 billion this year on a day that means absolutely nothing because of people like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It blows my mind how many supposedly independent grown-ass people expect the red-carpet treatment on VD and their anniversary, with almost zero reciprocity. Remember VD in elementary school? It was not just a one-way street. The best way to express that the day is important is to treat your partner the way you would like to be treated. Used to be a popular concept called the Golden Rule.

Yeah imagine if two entire days out of 365 people made a really, really big deal out of the person who will, for example, see them through chemo in my parents case or face tragedy and adversity with them. Literally the most “VIP” in their lives. Sorry you don’t think your partner is worth a red carpet even two days a year, I feel for him or her.

It will never be just 2 days though, come one. It's the wedding anniversary, dating anniversary, Sweetest Day, VD, Mother's Day, birthday, and on an on. There will be a monthly event. Probably best to find out sooner rather than later if this guy is up to the task. Otherwise it will be perpetual disappointment for OP.

[Anonymous]

What happened, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New relationship and this is our first V day. How do I politely let my boyfriend know that it’s important to me that he make a big deal about Valentine’s Day?

Its a silly made up day and its celebration is an expression not an obligation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New relationship and this is our first V day. How do I politely let my boyfriend know that it’s important to me that he make a big deal about Valentine’s Day?

Stand about 5 feet in front of him. Start jumping up and down, waving your hands, and shouting: "Yoo hoo, yoo hoo! Look at me! I am incredibly shallow!!!"

[Anonymous]

Valentines Day is for teenagers

[Anonymous]

OP is probably long gone, but my 2 cents. Don’t say anything. See how he does it on his own. If he doesn’t do it the way you want it, you may want to move on. Not because he’s a bad guy, but because you have different needs in a relationship. If you really want someone to make a big deal about Valentine’s Day, you want someone who wants to do that, not someone who only does it because you tell him to. Long term, he can’t give you what you need. And you will drive him crazy trying to make him care about things he doesn’t care about.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I didn't get shit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't get shit

Well, you certainly deserved to get sh*t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not important, drop it.

Seriously. Immature woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't get shit

Well, you certainly deserved to get sh*t.

Very kind of the bf to not give shit!!