I want to put my son up for adoption

[Anonymous]

Serious post. I'm a single mom of a 15 year old DS. I have breast cancer and he's just been awful. He rages around and I don't know what to do. Do I have any recourse? His dad isn't an option, neither are my parents.

[Anonymous]

Get him and yourself into therapy. Sounds like things are really hard right now.

[Anonymous]

I’m no expert in any of this but want to let you known that I’m so sorry. I’m sorry for you and I’m sorry for him. He sounds like a typical teenager but you are not in a position to handle it. Please reach out to somebody who knows you both. If I were you I would reach out to your doctor who might be able to refer you to someone who could help. Not necessarily get him adopted but someone who could help you both cope with this very difficult and sad stage in your lives. He knows you’re sick and he’s acting out. Help him find help.

Much love to you both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious post. I'm a single mom of a 15 year old DS. I have breast cancer and he's just been awful. He rages around and I don't know what to do. Do I have any recourse? His dad isn't an option, neither are my parents.

I think the 15-year-old would have to agree to that course of action: https://drrachelandrew.com/parenting/how-to-put-a-teenager-up-for-adoption

[Anonymous]

I do know the feeling, sadly.

One of my friends was adopted as a teen. If you open up the question to your wider circle of friends and acquaintances, someone may step up.

I did this. I was shocked when someone actually offered to adopt my kid, and said no. We are doing better today. It was the right thing to do. People realized we were really in a desperate place

[Anonymous]

I have him in therapy. I took him to crisis because he cut himself right before my breast cancer surgery. They wanted to involuntary commit him, but I couldn’t stay there while they looked for a bed because I had to have breast cancer surgery. It’s not as easy at it looks.

[Anonymous]

Was like this before you got diagnosed? I imagine he is terrified right now and acting out. If dad is not an option, who will take him in if, god forbid, you die? You need to get some mom/son therapy and make sure he knows he is safe.

Do you have any friends or family that could take him in for a little while? Even just a few days, to give you a break and allow him to experience normalcy?

I am sure this is extremely difficult for you. I am sorry you are going through this.

[Anonymous]

Call child welfare.

[Anonymous]

Could you afford a boarding school for kids who need extra support and emotional support?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have him in therapy. I took him to crisis because he cut himself right before my breast cancer surgery. They wanted to involuntary commit him, but I couldn’t stay there while they looked for a bed because I had to have breast cancer surgery. It’s not as easy at it looks.

It sounds like he does really need another adult.

[Anonymous]

Anger can be grief hidden. Perhaps he is worried you will not survive? And it’s coming out skewed as anger. I send you both the best wishes I can muster. May you be well. May he be at peace with these feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anger can be grief hidden. Perhaps he is worried you will not survive? And it’s coming out skewed as anger. I send you both the best wishes I can muster. May you be well. May he be at peace with these feelings.

I was ready to give up my teen when he was that age. I'm a single mom and he was just pretty awful. He won't always be this way. Mine turned the corner around 16 and a half. Do you have any friends or other family who can help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call child welfare.

Do not do this.

[Anonymous]

I’m just sending you love. I wish I knew you in real life because I would love to help in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have him in therapy. I took him to crisis because he cut himself right before my breast cancer surgery. They wanted to involuntary commit him, but I couldn’t stay there while they looked for a bed because I had to have breast cancer surgery. It’s not as easy at it looks.

I’m sorry. I have a now 20 year old with abandonment Issues. Nothing like having a parent be unavailable. Destroys some kids. It must be terrifying for him to know you’re ill. I know cutting is scary and awful, but it’s not lethal.

And, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you find a solution.