DS Is a 20-Year-old Loser Living at Home

[Anonymous]

My nephew has done nothing in three years since high school except smoke, vape, deal pot, punch holes in walls, and get fired from low-level jobs. He stays out all night with a bad crowd, plays video games, and sleeps during the day. The police have been called to the house. He hated high school, hates his father (who moved out last year), and pretty much hates everybody. He is better when he has a girlfriend. But otherwise, he is becoming a depressed loser.

He can't afford local housing on minimum wage, so must live at home. How can we get this man-child to transition to independent adulthood?

[Anonymous]

Nephew, or son?

[Anonymous]

I mean, if you're going to make up stories and troll, at least make up your mind if he's your DS or your nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you're going to make up stories and troll, at least make up your mind if he's your DS or your nephew.

And shouldn’t this bit of trolling be in the adult children section not tweens and teens? Troll fail.

[Anonymous]

If this is for real, charge him low rent to encourage working. And use the rent to fix up the house and the holes he's put in the walls.

Encourage him to go to trade school for the $$$ if he is talented at all with his hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew has done nothing in three years since high school except smoke, vape, deal pot, punch holes in walls, and get fired from low-level jobs. He stays out all night with a bad crowd, plays video games, and sleeps during the day. The police have been called to the house. He hated high school, hates his father (who moved out last year), and pretty much hates everybody. He is better when he has a girlfriend. But otherwise, he is becoming a depressed loser.

He can't afford local housing on minimum wage, so must live at home. How can we get this man-child to transition to independent adulthood?

He doesn't have to live at home. They let him. He can share an apartment on minimum wage. If he's got money for smoking and vaping he's got money. The police have been called to the house and he's punched holes in the walls? Toss his a** out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you're going to make up stories and troll, at least make up your mind if he's your DS or your nephew.

Seriously. I hate trolls that are bad at trolling. Such a waste.

[Anonymous]

Family counseling and don't call people losers.

[Anonymous]

My nephew is obviously somebody's son. I prefer not to identify him or myself. His problems are transitional teen problems, not adult problems.

Last year, his mother got a call from the mother of an another boy who "disappeared". The nephew did not know the boy well, but they hung out with common drug-dealing delinquents. The mother is emotionally co-dependent, and fears that if she kicks him out, then she will never see him again, or learn that he died.

My advice is to make home life very unpleasant. Take away house keys and car keys, take doors off hinges, take phones and computers. The boy is wasting and losing prime years of his life, so the term "loser" is sadly accurate. The man-boy has no place to go, no job skills.

Where do you find counselors for this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you're going to make up stories and troll, at least make up your mind if he's your DS or your nephew.

+1. Whoops!

[Anonymous]

It's the pot. Sorry. This will go on until he stops smoking his day away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you're going to make up stories and troll, at least make up your mind if he's your DS or your nephew.

NP here.

Only Jeff has the info to make the “troll” call here.

But if your troll-accusation is simply based on OP’s described scenario, then you are wrong.

So wrong, in fact, Jeff even created a separate forum filled mostly with threads about adults just like the one described by OP:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/forums/show/85.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew has done nothing in three years since high school except smoke, vape, deal pot, punch holes in walls, and get fired from low-level jobs. He stays out all night with a bad crowd, plays video games, and sleeps during the day. The police have been called to the house. He hated high school, hates his father (who moved out last year), and pretty much hates everybody. He is better when he has a girlfriend. But otherwise, he is becoming a depressed loser.

He can't afford local housing on minimum wage, so must live at home. How can we get this man-child to transition to independent adulthood?

He's mentally ill. Approach it like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you're going to make up stories and troll, at least make up your mind if he's your DS or your nephew.

NP here.

Only Jeff has the info to make the “troll” call here.

But if your troll-accusation is simply based on OP’s described scenario, then you are wrong.

So wrong, in fact, Jeff even created a separate forum filled mostly with threads about adults just like the one described by OP:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/forums/show/85.page

Title of the thread says "DS," content of the post says "nephew" If OP can't decided whether the story is about a son or a nephew, then it's made up and a troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew is obviously somebody's son. I prefer not to identify him or myself. His problems are transitional teen problems, not adult problems.

Last year, his mother got a call from the mother of an another boy who "disappeared". The nephew did not know the boy well, but they hung out with common drug-dealing delinquents. The mother is emotionally co-dependent, and fears that if she kicks him out, then she will never see him again, or learn that he died.

My advice is to make home life very unpleasant. Take away house keys and car keys, take doors off hinges, take phones and computers. The boy is wasting and losing prime years of his life, so the term "loser" is sadly accurate. The man-boy has no place to go, no job skills.

Where do you find counselors for this?

Lol keep digging