Should the guy always pay?

[Anonymous]

I know a guy who makes $$$ who gets upset when the woman does not offer to pay. For the first few dates, fine. After a handful, he starts getting bothered.

Does it matter if the guy makes 50k or 500k?

Guy I’m thinking of probably makes $500-800k per year.

Dh and I were both in grad school when we started dating. Dh paid for most dates. I know I would pick up take out or buy groceries. I’m not sure how I would handle dating a guy who I knew made a lot who would not want to pay for me. But if he was broke or made equal or less than me, I would of course not expect him to pay for everything.

[Anonymous]

Guy should pay for first four or five dates. After date two, girl should offer. Guy should say no thru date four or five and after that let her pay some. At that income level though he should be paying like eighty percent.

I agree it’s kind of rude if the girl doesn’t start to offer after the first couple dates, but the guy should mostly turn her down if he has that much money

[Anonymous]

Short answer: No.
Question: Why do you think he should? The person who initiated the date should pay — although the other person can offer.

[Anonymous]

Why should guy pay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should guy pay?

It is gentlemanly?

I must be old fashioned. Guys always paid for me when I was dating.

[Anonymous]

I would offer to pay. If the guy did not pay for me, I would think he is not that into me.

[Anonymous]

Yes, at least for the first 6-8 dates. After that the woman can cook him dinner.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

A la carte feminist modern women at it again....

[Anonymous]

We are all feminists until the check comes. Right ladies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should guy pay?

Because they get more in return

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are all feminists until the check comes. Right ladies!

Because the rest of what comes from a relationship and dating is worth more than a glass of wine and a burger.

[Anonymous]

It’s reasonable to not want to be taken advantage of. He doesn’t want a sugar daddy relationship .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are all feminists until the check comes. Right ladies!

Feminism doesn’t mean you can’t be treated to a meal or entertainment— by men or women. It’s weird you think that.

In the early dating stages, paying for dates is a way to show generosity. Stinginess is one of the biggest turn-offs and it’s hard with only a short history to show your partner that you’re a generous person, so this is the easy way. Later on in dating when you can do things like bring them soup and Gatorade if they’re ill or sit with them waiting for vet results it’s not as relevant because you have other ways to show it.

[Anonymous]

I always figured that whoever initiates the date pays. I did always offer but I know some women feel like if a man is really into you he will always pay, and I know there are men who totally agree. For those women it’s a matter of self-respect. I know a lot of Nigerians and Eastern Europeans feel that way.