Moving before or after baby is born?
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Anonymous
| DH and I have a two year old, and we are talking about TTC for #2. As our current house is too small, we'll have to move to a bigger house sometime after #2 arrives, probably within the first year or so. However, having experienced the sheer amount of craziness/stress that takes place during the first year of a childs life, as well as during a move, I'm shuddering at the thought of doing them together, especially with a toddler as well! I'm wondering if it makes more sense to move at some point during my pregnancy, as opposed to after #2 is born? FWIW, this would be a local move (no more than 30 minutes away from our current place). |
Anonymous
| I'd move before the baby is born, no question. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely before |
Anonymous
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I would start the process and be very specific on what you are looking for. You have time to be selective to find what you want when you are not in a rush.
Find a great agent who will work with you and only show you things that are prescreened and fit within your specific requirements. Good luck |
Anonymous
| Before. Or when #2 is a year old. |
Anonymous
| Before!!! |
Anonymous
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Definitely before, or not until at least two years after the baby comes.
If you do it before, you can get your two year old excited for the new house and then the new baby rather than forcing both changes close together. |
Anonymous
| We were not able to time it such that we could sell our house and move into a new one without finding something temporary in between. So...we sold our place when we had a toddler and I was pregnant, moved into a townhouse and paid month to month until we found something and I had the baby, then we moved to our new house when the baby was 5 months old. Honestly, I think it was easier to move after the baby came then it was for the move before the baby. We were able to really take our time, and I felt no pressure to jump into a new house. Plus, after the baby, there was really no expectation that I would be helping with any of the moving, so that was nice. |
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We moved when I was 5 months pregnant with #2. If we hadn't closed on our house, we probably would have waited until the baby was at least 6 months because we didn't want to move too close to my due date.
Not sure we would have done anything differently, but in retrospect, in part precipitated by our move and in part age/other development - DC1 moved to a new house, transitioned to a big kid bed (because started climbing out of the crib), potty trained (had hoped to do this before DC2 arrived), welcomed a baby sibling, and started a new school (we moved within DC, but our old daycare ended up being too long of a commute so transitioned to a daycare near our new neighborhood) all within 5 months. It was A LOT of transition to DC1, and it took a year for her to start sleeping well again. Just something to think about. On the other hand, we would not have had space in our condo for my parents to stay, but they were able to come for a month after DC2 was born and we had significantly more space and it was really helpful having the extra set of hands. Probably enough so to make all the rest worth it. |
Anonymous
| If you’re in a position to move before you are pregnant, or during a pregnancy, I would do it. As you know, buying a new house and getting pregnant, can both be challenging; don’t get upset if your timeline for one doesn’t wind up to be a match with the other. Go with what is most pressing for you and follow with the rest. FWIW, I moved internationally when baby was nine weeks. It wasn’t ideal, but that was the situation. It wasn’t terrible either; just plan, prep, and keep your head about you. Good luck with both conceiving and closing! |
Anonymous
| Before if you can but rates are brutal right now. |
Anonymous
That’s not going to get better in the foreseeable future. Before. But don’t let that push you into a bad decision. |
Anonymous
| Moved with a two week old and an 19 month old. Had family come in to help with kids but it was fine. |
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| Before! |
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Before is probably a lot easier, but here to say that we house hunted and moved with a 4 mo old and a 4YO and it’s definitely doable. I was still on mat leave while house hunting and for a good bit of the packing. DS basically lived in the moby wrap. TBH doing all of that while still at work and trying to save leave would have been tough.
We kept 4YO in preK the whole time - except for a few days when DS was born, which I highly recommend. |