Rude doorman

[Anonymous]

The doorman in my building is so rude. Yesterday he commented, "why does your face always look like that?" He said I always look annoyed when I go outside to pick up my eldest child from the bus. I told him this is how my face looks, and I can't do anything about it. He was arguing with me, and I continued to say this is what I look like. I'm not put on this planet to smile at this guy every day, especially when everyone knows he's cheating on his wife with an aide who has clients in the condo. He has also made other comments about how often I come in and out of the building or has even told me I need to stop ordering stuff online. Thank God I only have 49 days left until we move from NYC back to DC.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, that would annoy me, too. Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

tell him he's not getting paid to insult the residents.

who does he report to? maybe reach out to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:tell him he's not getting paid to insult the residents.

who does he report to? maybe reach out to them.

I would, but the manager won't fire him. He knows that. He takes advantage.

[Anonymous]

If a mere lackey can insult you with impunity, then your status is clearly low. Try to acquire some more impressive status signifiers. Pay attention to the other women in the building, and model your appearance and behavior on them.

Be warned, though, many doormen can sense you are a Nobody regardless of how you dress and act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The doorman in my building is so rude. Yesterday he commented, "why does your face always look like that?" He said I always look annoyed when I go outside to pick up my eldest child from the bus. I told him this is how my face looks, and I can't do anything about it. He was arguing with me, and I continued to say this is what I look like. I'm not put on this planet to smile at this guy every day, especially when everyone knows he's cheating on his wife with an aide who has clients in the condo. He has also made other comments about how often I come in and out of the building or has even told me I need to stop ordering stuff online. Thank God I only have 49 days left until we move from NYC back to DC.

It only looks like this when I see rude and annoying people who don't know how to engage in civilized and polite conversation. Why do you ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:tell him he's not getting paid to insult the residents.

who does he report to? maybe reach out to them.

I would, but the manager won't fire him. He knows that. He takes advantage.

So complain in writing to the manager. What do you think you will get by posting here?

[Anonymous]

The only way to respond is "because I'm rich and you're not"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a mere lackey can insult you with impunity, then your status is clearly low. Try to acquire some more impressive status signifiers. Pay attention to the other women in the building, and model your appearance and behavior on them.

Be warned, though, many doormen can sense you are a Nobody regardless of how you dress and act.

Op here. Did you miss the part where I said he's cheating on his wife? He treats other people this way. What the hell are you taking about calling people a nobody? Are you 4?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:tell him he's not getting paid to insult the residents.

who does he report to? maybe reach out to them.

I would, but the manager won't fire him. He knows that. He takes advantage.

So complain in writing to the manager. What do you think you will get by posting here?

Maybe sympathy. Maybe someone had a similar story. This is a forum where people are free to share experiences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The doorman in my building is so rude. Yesterday he commented, "why does your face always look like that?" He said I always look annoyed when I go outside to pick up my eldest child from the bus. I told him this is how my face looks, and I can't do anything about it. He was arguing with me, and I continued to say this is what I look like. I'm not put on this planet to smile at this guy every day, especially when everyone knows he's cheating on his wife with an aide who has clients in the condo. He has also made other comments about how often I come in and out of the building or has even told me I need to stop ordering stuff online. Thank God I only have 49 days left until we move from NYC back to DC.

It only looks like this when I see rude and annoying people who don't know how to engage in civilized and polite conversation. Why do you ask?

Op here haha 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:tell him he's not getting paid to insult the residents.

who does he report to? maybe reach out to them.

I would, but the manager won't fire him. He knows that. He takes advantage.

So complain in writing to the manager. What do you think you will get by posting here?

Maybe sympathy. Maybe someone had a similar story. This is a forum where people are free to share experiences.

Nobody that has been around this board thinks this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The doorman in my building is so rude. Yesterday he commented, "why does your face always look like that?" He said I always look annoyed when I go outside to pick up my eldest child from the bus. I told him this is how my face looks, and I can't do anything about it. He was arguing with me, and I continued to say this is what I look like. I'm not put on this planet to smile at this guy every day, especially when everyone knows he's cheating on his wife with an aide who has clients in the condo. He has also made other comments about how often I come in and out of the building or has even told me I need to stop ordering stuff online. Thank God I only have 49 days left until we move from NYC back to DC.

It only looks like this when I see rude and annoying people who don't know how to engage in civilized and polite conversation. Why do you ask?

Op here haha 😂

Your other option is to always wrinkle your nose, sniff the air a few times, and ask "what is that odor?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:tell him he's not getting paid to insult the residents.

who does he report to? maybe reach out to them.

I would, but the manager won't fire him. He knows that. He takes advantage.

So complain in writing to the manager. What do you think you will get by posting here?

Maybe sympathy. Maybe someone had a similar story. This is a forum where people are free to share experiences.

Nobody that has been around this board thinks this.

Get a life, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a mere lackey can insult you with impunity, then your status is clearly low. Try to acquire some more impressive status signifiers. Pay attention to the other women in the building, and model your appearance and behavior on them.

Be warned, though, many doormen can sense you are a Nobody regardless of how you dress and act.

Op here. Did you miss the part where I said he's cheating on his wife? He treats other people this way. What the hell are you taking about calling people a nobody? Are you 4?

The Nouveau bristles at mention of her lowly origins. You would give your all to have the languid confidence of the Noblesse. Alas, you can never wash off the reek of the canaille.