AITA - sister's first baby

[Anonymous]

My sister is expecting her first child in the spring. I just booked a vacation for a sort of "once in a lifetime" trips for my 40th birthday two weeks after her due date. It's not on my actual bday but the most convenient time, given other engagements and weather timing concerns. My mom is really upset with me for not "being there" for my sister. My sister and I have a close relationship; I told her about the trip and she said it sounded awesome. My sister also likes her privacy so I just assumed she would not want me around so soon after birth. As reference, my sister did not meet my own child until a month after he was born. AITA?

[Anonymous]

Sounds good to me. Have fun!

[Anonymous]

You are fine. I'm noticing as we get older, our mom's keep trying to control the narrative. don't give in.

[Anonymous]

You’re good. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Enjoy!! Your mom is just stirring up trouble. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

Sounds good to me as both mother and aunt. Your mom is inventing drama/problems.

[Anonymous]

If your sister doesn't seem upset, I would think you're fine. Does your mother have a history of stirring the pot?

[Anonymous]

Of course not. Tell your mom not to meddle in your relationship with your sister and that everything is good there.

It's unrealistic to expect anyone to keep their calendar clear for a month (baby could come early or late).

[Anonymous]

The only A in your case is your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your sister doesn't seem upset, I would think you're fine. Does your mother have a history of stirring the pot?

Yes. And of finding reasons to take offense on my sister's behalf. Why I sometimes need outside perspective on what is normal or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only A in your case is your mom.

This. End thread.

[Anonymous]

Wth? I have a very close family and had like 4 support people in my labor room, stayed with family for a month after delivering, but I still would not be the least bit offended as the new mom in this situation. Your mom is weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. Tell your mom not to meddle in your relationship with your sister and that everything is good there.

It's unrealistic to expect anyone to keep their calendar clear for a month (baby could come early or late).

Agree with the bolded.

[Anonymous]

Your mom is being extremely weird. Go on your trip and enjoy! Your sister probably would much rather have you visit and meet the new baby after she's found her feet a bit more anyway.

[Anonymous]

This seems fine.