Do you regret having babies past 35?

[Anonymous]

Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

No, because I wanted kids and I love my kid. And I had her with the right guy, but if I'd had kids younger they would have had crap dads, parents stuck in a crap relationship, or a single mom.

[Anonymous]

The only ones I know who regret it are the ones who had children in the early 20s and thought they were 'done' raising them by 42 or so. But the oops 3rd or 4th baby surprised them so they're paying for college and after school simultaneously.

[Anonymous]

No. I'm so happy I got my cake and ate it too as it were. Love my kids. Have tons of money banked, great education, amazing career. I'm was just thinking how nice it is I can hang out with my kids and not be stressed about time or money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why or why not?

Why are you asking this question? Are you thinking of having a baby and you are over 35? Let's start with your story first.

[Anonymous]

I love my two and am planning a third (all between ages 35-40). I didn’t meet my husband until my 30s, and he’s AMAZING so worth the wait, and I wouldn’t change a thing.

BUT.

It’s DEFINITELY hard on my body and would have been much, much easier physically 5-10 years earlier. If you’ve got the right guy and you’re over 28, I wouldn’t wait!!

[Anonymous]

Didn't really have a choice, given that I married on the older side and then dealt with infertility. Had my kids at 40 and 42. Physically I don't feel much different, still have energy to keep up. Financially we have the resources to hire help that we wouldn't have a decade earlier. The only regret is both my parents passed away when DCs were still very little.

[Anonymous]

I had kids at 33 and 37, both C sections. And my recovery at age 37 was hands down WAY easier than the one at 33. Less pain, more energy, easier transition to having a newborn, easier overall. For a variety of factors, I’m sure, but for me at least the age difference didn’t seem to factor in at all.

That being said, now I’m 40, and the thought of having another pregnancy and newborn makes me blanch.

[Anonymous]

This is always such a weird question (as is its counterpart, "do you regret having kids young," though you don't see that much on DCUM which definitely skews anti-older mom. I heard that one more growing up in the Midwest and always thought it was a stupid question too). I mean, what, are people going to send their kids back if they 'regret' having had them at some randomly selected age? What's messed up with you right now, OP, that you're thinking this way?

[Anonymous]

I had mine at 29, 31, 34 and sometimes I regret not going for another around 40. So many of my friends (maybe even most of them) had kids in their 40s and it worked out great.

[Anonymous]

No, because DH and I were 30-ish when we married and we both wanted to enjoy married life as a couple before starting a family. We waited 5 years.

[Anonymous]

No. I didn't get married until l I was in my 30s. Had my kids at 35 and 38. DH and I look younger and we were very stable financially and in our marriage and careers. Our kids are great and we have no "what if" moments. Sometimes I'm older than the other parents but I don't really care.

[Anonymous]

No, you are so relaxed and delighted to have children at an older age. You take your time with each experience and really cherish them. Money is not a stressor. Activities, clothing, and trips are all affordable. You can take the time to spend with your child without worrying about plugging away at grad school, or working multiple jobs.

[Anonymous]

I feel like I see this question or versions of it a lot on here late.

Had my second at 38. No regrets or complications. Was in the hospital for exactly 24 hours and went home.

[Anonymous]

I had them at 27, 32, and 36 and I certainly don’t regret it. It was by design.