Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

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Anonymous wrote:I wish those against "interracial marriage" would clarify. Maybe it's because I'm mixed and the product of an "interracial marriage," but what the hell do they mean?

Like what about people with different colored eyes? Blondes and brunettes? What's the arbitrary line based on looks that you disapprove of?

My reason: watering down of cultural identity. Has nothing to do with looks (whatever that means).

You mean, like Italians marrying Irish?

No she means Jewish men marrying non Jewish women

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Probably not the same level- but I get sick seeing someone eating their buggers- one of my kids is doing this (age 7)- I can deal with puke, diarrhea anything- but this hits me. I remember growing up living next to another family- same ages kids .. we were neighbors (Beach house- quaint). Anyway, we were all going somewhere and I saw my huge many years crush eat his buggers- must have been 12-13? I was so disgusted.. it killed an crush I had for 6 years or so- I cannot deal with my 4 and 6 year olds (the 4 year old copies the 7 year old) doing this- working on this but -ugh..

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The pro-military tributes now ubiquitous at sporting events.

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atheists (and my parents and inlaws are)
affirmative action
gay marriage/govt in marriage - civil unions/secular contracts fine
abortion
drugs
tattoos
hook-up culture/sleeping around
vegans

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Anonymous wrote:Moms who work FT "by choice", gay marriage, any sort of weird diet that is not related to food allergy/intolerance (vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, etc.), people who drive cars that are disproportionately nice compared to their house.

I could go on and on. I'm quite judgy, but know better than to tell people!

Ooh ooh, I am a mom who's always worked full time by choice. Do you think it's not really my choice, or that all women should SAH or WOH PT once they become parents? How totally weird.

I know it's totally your choice, that you could easily afford to stay home with your children and don't. That is why I judge. Women who truly must work to cover basic bills, I feel sorry for.

What are you judging? That my children are neglected or being raised wrong because their other parent is as equally involved? Do you think because I work by choice, I'm materialistic? Do you think only women who want to spend the majority of their time with their children should have them?

Mostly this. Obviously I don't know you personally, but many people I know "can't afford to stay home" because then they couldn't afford the country club and the X5.

But I CAN afford to stay home. I work full time by choice. I work for the intellectual stimulation, social interaction and because I'd be bored shitless at home. We save 80% of my salary. So what's your objection, since I fully admit we don't need me to work for financial reasons?

It's sad that you can't get stimulation in other ways.
I am sorry you are not creative enough to not be bored with your child. If you are active with your child, how could you be bored?
It's sad you can't put your child's needs first.

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Anonymous wrote:Moms who work FT "by choice", gay marriage, any sort of weird diet that is not related to food allergy/intolerance (vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, etc.), people who drive cars that are disproportionately nice compared to their house.

I could go on and on. I'm quite judgy, but know better than to tell people!

Ooh ooh, I am a mom who's always worked full time by choice. Do you think it's not really my choice, or that all women should SAH or WOH PT once they become parents? How totally weird.

I know it's totally your choice, that you could easily afford to stay home with your children and don't. That is why I judge. Women who truly must work to cover basic bills, I feel sorry for.

What are you judging? That my children are neglected or being raised wrong because their other parent is as equally involved? Do you think because I work by choice, I'm materialistic? Do you think only women who want to spend the majority of their time with their children should have them?

Mostly this. Obviously I don't know you personally, but many people I know "can't afford to stay home" because then they couldn't afford the country club and the X5.

But I CAN afford to stay home. I work full time by choice. I work for the intellectual stimulation, social interaction and because I'd be bored shitless at home. We save 80% of my salary. So what's your objection, since I fully admit we don't need me to work for financial reasons?

It's sad that you can't get stimulation in other ways.
I am sorry you are not creative enough to not be bored with your child. If you are active with your child, how could you be bored?
It's sad you can't put your child's needs first.

Maybe her kids are older? Personally, I don't understand moms who SAHM when their kids are in school all day. I just can't do this but I don't ask them why they can't work. Just stop. This discussion never goes anywhere.

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Let me unite you all. I pretty much oppose all music written after, say, the year I was born.

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People who give you wine in a regular glass, not a wine glass.
No thanks.
I wont drink wine that is not in a proper glass.

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Anonymous wrote:Homeschooling (I know a few people who homeschool and they're on Facebook ALL DAY LONG- half the time the pictures of their kids "at school" are of their kids on a playground or gathering leaves or some shit)

Having more than 4 children. If you desire a family larger than that, adopt. Help existing children who need families.

Family beds- just weird.

Giving teenagers really nice cars. They're either going to wreck them or not take care of them, and they're never going to know the value of earning a nice car because they were given a luxury car at 16. It makes kids into assholes.

Paying your kid's entire way through college. Give them some skin in the game so they have some sort of incentive to choose a useful major, do well, get a well paying job afterward.

Accepting money from your parents as a capable adult just so you can live a better lifestyle than you yourself could afford.

My favorite is when the kid drives a better car than the parent because the parent wants the kid to have a "safe car". You know how a new BMW is the only safe car out there.

Also Moms that swear no one else can watch their child like they do, not even the father. WTF, if you are married to him, and procreated with him, and he was on board to have kids, he has proven he can learn new things with a college degree and possibly post graduate education and you ate saying he can't watch the baby for 2 hours alone??? This is a sore point for me because my mom was one of those moms that felt she had to have the final say over everything kid related and not only did it cause tension because my dad felt he had no say over his own children but we missed out on things he would have done differently than my mom ...we would have seen more family, been more involved in outdoor adventures, gone into the city, and learned to be a little more independent. Together they would have balanced each other and brought different things to our childhood.

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atheists
There is more than one poster on the atheist.are.a.pain. concept.

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Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

What's interesting to me about OP's position is that secretly I kind of use this as a litmus test for friendships with people of other races. I always wonder if while Sue is perfectly nice and friendly and she will lend me a cup of sugar when I'm out, our kids go to the same schools and we carpool together if one day should my bi-racial daughter want to date her son from a different background suddenly Sue and I aren't so cool anymore. While I don't disagree you can have your reasons and I'm not going to try to change them, if you don't think my daughter is whatever enough to date your son, what more do we have to day to each other? I also would hated to have wasted years of friendship on that person.

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Anonymous wrote:atheists
There is more than one poster on the atheist.are.a.pain. concept.

Do you not love atheists?

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Facebook

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For me, it's LinkedIn.

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Abortion. I actually have both religious and nonreligious reasons I'm opposed to it. No, I've never had one though I have twice been pregnant under circumstances (once financial and once medical) that most people seem to deem suitable for abortion. However, I find that once people know I don't support abortion, they wrongfully assume a lot of other things about me. For the record, I am a person of color, I voted for marriage equality, and I volunteer with low income families with special needs children so yeah, I do care about what happens to babies and women after birth. I'd adopt a quote, unquote unwanted child if I didn't have a chronic health condition that makes my future uncertain.