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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend. [/quote]

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."[/quote]

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

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You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs. [/quote]

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them). [/quote]

What's interesting to me about OP's position is that secretly I kind of use this as a litmus test for friendships with people of other races.  I always wonder if while Sue is perfectly nice and friendly and she will lend me a cup of sugar when I'm out, our kids go to the same schools and we carpool together if one day should my bi-racial daughter want to date her son from a different background suddenly Sue and I aren't so cool anymore.  While I don't disagree you can have your reasons and I'm not going to try to change them, if you don't think my daughter is whatever enough to date your son, what more do we have to day to each other?  I also would hated to have wasted years of friendship on that person.[/quote]

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