WWYD: kid sick before birthday party

[Anonymous]

My DC has a birthday party this weekend with a friend who she shares a birthday with. DC came down with a cold and is pretty congested. Party is indoors. Does she go and mask? It’s a cold, negative Covid. If we do decide to send her, I was thinking we run it by the other family first, and then give all guests a heads-up in case they don’t want to be exposed to a cold.

WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Did you do a PCR test? I’d be ok with negative PCR if your dd was masked the whole time. I know people are going to say it’s just a cold, but even passing on a cold these days is a burden bc then the person with the cold has to skip things, test, etc

[Anonymous]

Of course you run it by the other family first. How are people still asking these questions?

If your DC is sick, explain the situation to the other family. They may be fine with it as long as your kid is PCR negative. They may not. But don't just send your kid and spring it like a (terrible) birthday surprise.

The truth is, the answer should have been the same before covid (minus the testing). "hey, my kid is sick, how do you feel about..."

[Anonymous]

We wouldn't go. We would be responsible and stay home and send our regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We wouldn't go. We would be responsible and stay home and send our regrets.

+1 how is this a question?

[Anonymous]

What the heck? You should not send your kid to a birthday party even if it is a cold and not COVID. That’s rude and inconsiderate. And it could be COVID even though she had a negative PCR.

But if you do, yes, you should ask the host and tell the other guests. If I was another guest, I would cancel.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe people are still upending their lives over colds. As long as your DC tested negative, she should not miss her own birthday party due to a cold. Obviously discuss with the other family though, as you mentioned.

[Anonymous]

OP here, sorry if I wasn’t clear. It is a joint party for both my daughter and her friend, who share a birthday and are turning 7. We are hosting along with the family of the other birthday girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, sorry if I wasn’t clear. It is a joint party for both my daughter and her friend, who share a birthday and are turning 7. We are hosting along with the family of the other birthday girl.

We get it. But Your kid is sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you do a PCR test? I’d be ok with negative PCR if your dd was masked the whole time. I know people are going to say it’s just a cold, but even passing on a cold these days is a burden bc then the person with the cold has to skip things, test, etc

OP here - yes, negative PCR. Your point about repercussions for even simple colds in the covid-era is why I am conflicted.

[Anonymous]

Don’t go. Tell your child that you will do something later to make it up. This how viruses spread and mutate. But also, they may end up giving it to someone with a weakened immune system.

[Anonymous]

I would skip the party and reschedule a new dedicated party once the child is healthy. Even if it is not Covid, any kind of cold is a massive pain right now for parents with travel or in-person work policies. Another family getting your cold could affect a vacation, family event, or require them to miss important work functions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would skip the party and reschedule a new dedicated party once the child is healthy. Even if it is not Covid, any kind of cold is a massive pain right now for parents with travel or in-person work policies. Another family getting your cold could affect a vacation, family event, or require them to miss important work functions.

+1. I would be massively annoyed if the host kid was sick and still having the party.

[Anonymous]

Please tell me you are not in McLean.

[Anonymous]

This is absurd…it’s a cold. I’d have no problem with it and wouldn’t expect your DD to mask. Think of how many kids went to school with colds pre 2020 and no one thought twice. If it’s not Covid, no big deal.