How long before you knew your spouse was the one?
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Anonymous
| How long did you date before you knew? |
Anonymous
| Six weeks for me, a week for him. |
Anonymous
| A couple days really. But we dated for 2 years before getting engaged. But within days/weeks we were talking about long-term plans. |
Anonymous
| About 6 months. Married a year after meeting. |
Anonymous
| I knew on the 1st date. |
Anonymous
| He knew on the first date. I started to think about it at about 6 months and was sure by 18 months. I need to live with someone before I pin too many hopes on them. |
Anonymous
| Over two years. But I met him when I was 17 and a freshman in college. I was young and stupid then. |
Anonymous
| About 30 minutes after meeting her. |
Anonymous
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The first time I saw him, the word "husband" popped into my head. It was so weird. He's not my type physically, I didn't know the guy - I don't know what that was. Apparently he had a similar thing happen when he first met me.
We didn't date right away, though. We hung out as friends for about six months. He kept asking me to go out with him but it didn't feel right. I felt like once we started dating, that was probably going to be that, and I just didn't want that yet. Not like we were young - we were in our mid/late 30s! I think I just knew that us getting together would really spell the end of the life I was actually leading at the time - he was more settled, liked to stay home, didn't like going out to bars or parties (or to hike or bike ride, it wasn't all debauched stuff). When we did finally get together, it took all of a month for us to move in together. We got married about two years later. Been together 15 years now. I was right about the compromises to lifestyle, and also that he'd be a good, stable husband to me. So I guess that's to say: it wasn't like I had some flash that he was "the one" and was going to whisk me off and make my dreams come true. More, that he was someone I could have a life with as my partner. |
Anonymous
| Second date |
Anonymous
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I knew right away. It took him about three more years, in which he cheated on me, broke up with me, and then went out with the person he cheated with. Then he came back and told me he realized that I was the one.
Reading this it doesn’t sound like it was a good idea, but we’ve been married for over 20 years now. |
Anonymous
| We met, got married three months later, stayed married for 25 years. |
Anonymous
| 2nd date but didn't talk about it until the fourth month of dating. Married almost a year to day of first date. Been extremely happily married for 15 years now. |
Anonymous
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First night. Happy hour (both at our different work happy hours same bar)- turned into a 2:30am night with our friends and each other. By 7pm, we were professing our love. By 11pm he was saying 'if we are going to get married there is something you should know..."
That was in 1996 (26 and 25 him). We were married in 1998. It's been a whirlwind. 
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Anonymous
Love. My mom and dad were married after 6 months. I thought that was early  . They had an extremely happy marriage for 52 years until my dad passed away.
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