Ex/childrens father freaked out that I took plan B

[Anonymous]

My ex and the Father of my 2 children and I have not been together since the end of 2020. After our breakup, I hooked up with 2 men who I had gotten to know for about 3 weeks each, one in Jan 2021 and another in Feb 2021, so 16 months ago was the last time I really hung out with any new men. My ex and I hooked up a couple times, no kissing involved, we were tipsy at the time. That was July of 2021 and January of this year, 2022, the last time it happened I let him know I did not want to have sex with him or touch him anymore, and he didn't seem to mind, as he didn't want to kiss me or really put passion into the sex anyways. We remained friends and still did things with the kids and even just us two, like see movies together during the day if the kids had preschool and we weren't scheduled to work.
I recently realized I was getting too comfortable being his friend, as I think some of his friendship was fake and just a way to keep me from having time to date others. So I met up with someone this weekend. It was our second time going out, the first time was coffee.
Well, I ended up really liking this new guy who I had been texting and calling for 3 weeks, he was very nice.
We ended up having sex, we used a condom but it broke. He also finished without pulling out completley on accident. He felt very bad about it and bought me plan B. I said it was not his fault and no big deal etc, it's the risk of having sex, and anyways I wouldn't have minded if he didn't pull out as long as we had wrapped it up, condoms breaking happens.

Anyways, the next day my ex saw the plan b box on my kitchen counter. He got very upset saying "I can't belive you let a man c*m in you, you are putting yourself at risk for hiv" etc. I let him know I did use a condom and it broke, and that either either way it wasn't his business. This is the same man who got oral sex from random as I was engaged to him and pregnant with our second child... hypocritical or not?

Also, my dad's wedding is next month, and I let him know if things keep going well, I might bring him as my date, and he would meet the kids before that. I'm talking like 5-6 weeks from now. He flipped out over that too, even though he's had the kids meet 2 girlfriends already, and I haven't introduced them to anyone ever.

[Anonymous]

"THat is not your business and that is a very inappropriate thing for you to say. I'm not having this conversation with you."

It sounds like you and your ex don't have good boundaries. Stop engaging in this type of conversation. If you are going to leave your trash on your counter and he is going to comment, don't let him in your home. This inappropriateness will stop when you set and maintain strong boundaries.

[Anonymous]

You both need to get your shit together. . Sorry for your kids.

And PS it wasn't an accident he finished before pulling out. You can't afford to be naive about men .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"THat is not your business and that is a very inappropriate thing for you to say. I'm not having this conversation with you."

It sounds like you and your ex don't have good boundaries. Stop engaging in this type of conversation. If you are going to leave your trash on your counter and he is going to comment, don't let him in your home. This inappropriateness will stop when you set and maintain strong boundaries.

This is an excellent reply and you should read it a few times until it sinks in.

[Anonymous]

Stop discussing your dating life and stop inviting him into your house. He can wait in his car to pick up the kids. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Good fences make good neighbors. You need better boundaries with your ex (and don’t be leaving the Plan B box on the kitchen counter!).

[Anonymous]

Please grow up and you both need to stop using your kids to spite each other.

While you can't control your ex being an idiot you can control yourself. And there's no reason you kids need to know your boyfriend of 6 weeks .

And I'll echo pp in saying the condom and finishing thing wasn't an accident. Wise up!

[Anonymous]

This is incredibly Jerry Springer.

[Anonymous]

Too soon to be meeting kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You both need to get your shit together. . Sorry for your kids.

And PS it wasn't an accident he finished before pulling out. You can't afford to be naive about men .

All of this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is incredibly Jerry Springer.

Yes!!!! With notes of Mauri.

[Anonymous]

Gross. Who puts a Plan B on the counter where everyone including your kids can see?

And introducing a guy you've literally known for a hot minute to the kids? Boo hiss.

[Anonymous]

Trashy all around.
Are you auditioning for a Real Housewives role?

[Anonymous]

He's right you know.

[Anonymous]

Leaving Plan B on the counter where ex can see was planned.

You need to fly solo for awhile. No ex. No new bf. No wedding dates. Concentrate on getting yourself to a place where you don’t *need* the men and certainly not all this drama you are manufacturing. And for chrissake, parent your children better.