How do you explain to a teen that just because they are 18 and refusing financial support from their

[Anonymous]

parents doesn’t mean they are free to do whatever they want.

Ever since my niece turned 18 2 months ago she decided she no longer had to abide by her parent’s rules as long as she was refusing financial help from them. She stayed out all night and refused to come home for days, claiming my sister and her husband are too controlling like setting a curfew or limits on cell phones. She bought her own cell phone to skirt her parents reasonable restrictions on the cell phone like most parents of teens do. She kept insisting she didn't have to follow her parents rules regarding the cell phone because she paid for the cell phone herself and is refusing financial help from her parents.

My niece plans to take a week trip to Myrtle beach with her friends on Monday and there will be no adult supervision. No matter how many times her parents told her no she insists she will do it and her parents can’t tell her what to do because she refuses their financial support. Shes not even living with them but her parents often stop by but she starts yelling at them to go away. The problem is she makes very irresponsible decisions like going into large crowds during a pandemic or sleeping around with random men some who have criminal records. I told her part of being an adult is acting like one and making responsible decisions. “iM eIgHtEeN i CaN dO wHaT i WaNt” is not being an adult.

[Anonymous]

You don't. She is right. She is free to make bad choices unless they are illegal or she meets the requirements for involuntary hospitalization or court ordered legal guardianship (nothing you wrote indicates this). Feel free to offer advice and she can feel free to ignore it.

[Anonymous]

She’s 18 and not taking their money, so they can’t actually stop her. How is she supporting herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s 18 and not taking their money, so they can’t actually stop her. How is she supporting herself?

OP here. She has a job.

[Anonymous]

I don't see the problem. She's 18 and has a job and doesn't live at home. Many parents could be so lucky.

[Anonymous]

Is it you? You write like a teenager.

[Anonymous]

She has a job and doesn’t live with them and they want to set cell phone limits for her?! No. I agree with her. Will they get to control her when she’s 19? 22? 30?

[Anonymous]

If she is eighteen and supporting herself including not living at home, she is free to do what she wants.

If she was still living at home that would be very different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has a job and doesn’t live with them and they want to set cell phone limits for her?! No. I agree with her. Will they get to control her when she’s 19? 22? 30?

OP here. That depends on how she acts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:parents doesn’t mean they are free to do whatever they want.

Ever since my niece turned 18 2 months ago she decided she no longer had to abide by her parent’s rules as long as she was refusing financial help from them. She stayed out all night and refused to come home for days, claiming my sister and her husband are too controlling like setting a curfew or limits on cell phones. She bought her own cell phone to skirt her parents reasonable restrictions on the cell phone like most parents of teens do. She kept insisting she didn't have to follow her parents rules regarding the cell phone because she paid for the cell phone herself and is refusing financial help from her parents.

My niece plans to take a week trip to Myrtle beach with her friends on Monday and there will be no adult supervision. No matter how many times her parents told her no she insists she will do it and her parents can’t tell her what to do because she refuses their financial support. Shes not even living with them but her parents often stop by but she starts yelling at them to go away. The problem is she makes very irresponsible decisions like going into large crowds during a pandemic or sleeping around with random men some who have criminal records. I told her part of being an adult is acting like one and making responsible decisions. “iM eIgHtEeN i CaN dO wHaT i WaNt” is not being an adult.[/quote

No, most parents of 18-year-old ADULTS don’t have “restrictions on the cell phone.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she is eighteen and supporting herself including not living at home, she is free to do what she wants.

If she was still living at home that would be very different.

OP here. She left home without permission.

[Anonymous]

Yawn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:parents doesn’t mean they are free to do whatever they want.

Ever since my niece turned 18 2 months ago she decided she no longer had to abide by her parent’s rules as long as she was refusing financial help from them. She stayed out all night and refused to come home for days, claiming my sister and her husband are too controlling like setting a curfew or limits on cell phones. She bought her own cell phone to skirt her parents reasonable restrictions on the cell phone like most parents of teens do. She kept insisting she didn't have to follow her parents rules regarding the cell phone because she paid for the cell phone herself and is refusing financial help from her parents.

My niece plans to take a week trip to Myrtle beach with her friends on Monday and there will be no adult supervision. No matter how many times her parents told her no she insists she will do it and her parents can’t tell her what to do because she refuses their financial support. Shes not even living with them but her parents often stop by but she starts yelling at them to go away. The problem is she makes very irresponsible decisions like going into large crowds during a pandemic or sleeping around with random men some who have criminal records. I told her part of being an adult is acting like one and making responsible decisions. “iM eIgHtEeN i CaN dO wHaT i WaNt” is not being an adult.[/quote

No, most parents of 18-year-old ADULTS don’t have “restrictions on the cell phone.”

OP here. Being 18 doesn’t automatically make you an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is eighteen and supporting herself including not living at home, she is free to do what she wants.

If she was still living at home that would be very different.

OP here. She left home without permission.

Adults are free to move about as they please, without permission from anyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is eighteen and supporting herself including not living at home, she is free to do what she wants.

If she was still living at home that would be very different.

OP here. She left home without permission.

SHE DOESN’T NEED PERMISSION. SHE IS AN ADULT.

This has to be a troll.