How would you interpret this text from an ex?

[Anonymous]

I recently dated a guy on and off for 6 months; I broke it off with him a few months ago because I wanted a committed relationship and he didn't. In the few months since, he's texted me a few times and I haven't responded.

Last night, he sent me a pic of a wine bottle and glass of wine and said, "I think you got me this bottle! Not sure what stage of life you're at...a lot has changed for me! If you're up for a chat, let me know!"

Do you think he is implying that he's changed his mind about wanting a relationship with me, OR that he has moved on and gotten engaged o new job, etc and wants to tell me about it?

[Anonymous]

Come on, you know what he wants.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. How about getting off texting and have an adult conversation with him to find out what he wants?

[Anonymous]

Sounds innocent enough. People often reflect and realize the mistakes they've made..

[Anonymous]

I would interpret that as he has moved on, potentially has someone new in his life, but is hoping to be friends.

[Anonymous]

I think he is regretting his hesitation. Only one way to find out--talk to him! Keep it light and keep him guessing a bit though, focus on evaluating him...

[Anonymous]

I think he is missing you and want to reconnect.

[Anonymous]

I think he was feeling lonely at that moment and was trying it out. It could be many things. If you respond go with low expectations so you don’t get hurt. And set it up so a booty call is not an option.

[Anonymous]

It was a booty call

[Anonymous]

Run from this guy--he is a flake!

[Anonymous]

BTDT. Don’t respond.

In my case, he decided he *did* want a committed relationship….except he didn’t act like it and I still caught him sneaking around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Run from this guy--he is a flake!

This is a real possibility. You could rename him Flake in your contacts, that should contextualize things every time he texts.

But then again, maybe he had a coming to Jesus moment. I dunno.

[Anonymous]

don’t respond at night / see him at night

only see him during the day


tell him, to set up time for y’all to connect over lunch

[Anonymous]

Cutesy should not work on you

[Anonymous]

I’d ignore that kind of vague texting. If he has something to tell you, he should just be straight up and not drop hints. Don’t fall for it. Don’t waste your time on a man-child.