How does your Catholic School treat non binary/trans student?
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Anonymous
| My 7th grade DD goes to a fairly progressive Catholic school. They are the only student in their year group that they know who identifies as non binary, although they are friends with a few gay students. They would like to ask the school to use their gender neutral name when they start back for 8th grade after the summer. I am wondering how this is going to be received... I know Catholic school is not ideal for LGBTQ kids so we are going to make a change for High School but they are adamant they want to stay for 8th as they have so many good friends at the school. |
Anonymous
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If you tell them to use whatever pronouns, they will. NBD.
Someone may forget or be new, etc. but not on purpose. |
Anonymous
| "They" is plural, btw. |
Anonymous
| Those ze and zir and hir pronouns are all the rage now. |
Anonymous
| Hopefully your 7ty grade child will be treated better by the school than your comment is on this board. |
Anonymous
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Here is 2020 article on how one area Catholic school responded to a gender non-conforming child. I was disappointed by the response, and hope you find a better way forward in your community.
https://www.hillrag.com/2020/06/27/transgender-boy-finds-support-in-community/ |
Anonymous
+1 Stay current on all the bespoke pronouns. There will be a quiz. |
Anonymous
That is not very encouraging, I'm glad Micheal has found a school that is completely accepting. |
Anonymous
Actually, no. https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/singular-nonbinary-they |
Anonymous
That's only if you don't know to whom you are referring. They when referring to a particular person is incorrect. |
Anonymous
| I don't think it would fly at our school, but ours is pretty conservative. I think it very much matters where you are. Honestly I would suggest your child hold off on a name change until high school, where it will be easier to make a fresh start. |
Anonymous
The PP was clarifying that the meant it as plural in the previous post. Calm down. I know of no trans kids at my friend's Catholic school. We discussed because there are trans students at my child's school, and it's a non-issue. Apparently some Catholic schools don't produce trans people, at least they aren't trans while in school there... I would seriously consider another independent option. |
Anonymous
| Talk to the school. But unlike the family in the article, start with the administration. You can't just skip that step. I will say at the high school level this is a non issue at our hs. The only issue is uniform compliance. You wear a boy or girl uniform. You can't mix them like boy uniform with painted nails or girl skirt with boy's tie. |
Anonymous
| Most Catholic schools don't offer this as an option OP. |
Anonymous
| (OP) At my kid's school they don't distinguish between a girl and boys uniform and being non binary sometimes my kid wears the uniform pants and very occasionally the skirt. There is no tie etc just a polo shirt so uniform isn't a problem. I don't think they wish to come out as non binary to the school as such but would just like to be called their preferred name. I will speak to her counselor about it and see what they say. I am discouraged by the responses though. |