Not even a card

[Anonymous]

So far, nothing from my dh. He knows cards mean a lot to me. Going to try not to snap and give it time. Hoping he’s going to head out later today to pick up a card, wilted flowers. Something. Anything.

I’m crying in the bathroom. So disappointed.

Even a “good morning! happy mother day, we love you” little sing song would’ve been nice.

So hard to not be nasty and mean right now. I’m so disappointed.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. It's only 10am, hopefully he does something nice for you. How is your marriage overall?

[Anonymous]

I hope he does too! Happy Mother’s Day from me, OP.

[Anonymous]

That was me 15 years ago. Now I expect nothing, so no disappointment Takes me off the hook for Father's day, too!

[Anonymous]

Did you warn him this was coming up? We have a family meeting once a month to discuss what’s coming up - holidays, trips, birthdays, company, etc. So nobody has any excuse to forget.

[Anonymous]

Did you tell him what you hoped for today?

[Anonymous]

how old are your kids OP?

[Anonymous]

No one here has realized it’s Mothers Day. I have given up after years of disappointment hoping for some acknowledgement. Happy Mother’s Day to you!!

[Anonymous]

I thought about getting a card for my wife, but the kids are old enough to do something for her on their own & she’s never liked cards much anyway. The kids are musicians. I think they’ll give her a little concert when they finally wake up.

[Anonymous]

OP, seriously? Why do you need that from him? You are taking this made up day way too seriously. Be happy you are mother and stop the drama. Crying in the bathroom? Live for yourself, do what you want. Why do you need that kind of attention? You love cards? They are a waste of money and bad for then environment.
Signed,
Mom of 22 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So far, nothing from my dh. He knows cards mean a lot to me. Going to try not to snap and give it time. Hoping he’s going to head out later today to pick up a card, wilted flowers. Something. Anything.

I’m crying in the bathroom. So disappointed.

Even a “good morning! happy mother day, we love you” little sing song would’ve been nice.

So hard to not be nasty and mean right now. I’m so disappointed.

If he does actually understand this, then he is enjoying being cruel to you on purpose and there is nothing you can do. More likely, you've told him but he just doesn't get it. Which is self centered and mildly jerky, but different than being intentionally cruel.

I have a self centered DH as well. Many, many sad days when I actually still cared. But I have made my peace with the situation by having no expectations of him. I felt myself starting to get sad in anticipation of my crappy MD yesterday, and responded by getting myself a gift while I was out getting errands. I texted him "I'm getting my Mother's Day gift while I'm out, but tomorrow lets make pancakes with the kids". So that is our plan for the day, and I am fine with it.

OP, I strongly recommend rather than sitting around waiting to see if he will do something for you, you tell him what you want. "It's Mother's Day, and I'd like to celebrate. Can you pick up some take out, flowers, and a card for tonight?"

[Anonymous]

Kids under 4 years old
I told him (after previous holidays anniversaries of being disappointed of no card/feeling special) th at at minimum I want a card. A card is very meaningful to me.
He was diligent about it after I brought it up
Marriage been challenging the last couple years. The last few weeks have been positive, had a nice date and quality time together Friday.
I told him I wanted to have me time this morning, and then family time in afternoon.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a troll... crying in the bathroom? Nasty and mean? Wilted flowers? Someone is mocking the typical DH didn't do anything posts .

On the very small chance this is real if he always gives you something he likely still will

If your kids are still young enough to want to sing cutesy songs consider it a gift he let you sleep in.

If he's never gotten you anything we'll you should be used to that by now and bathroom tantrums isn't good modeling for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids under 4 years old
I told him (after previous holidays anniversaries of being disappointed of no card/feeling special) th at at minimum I want a card. A card is very meaningful to me.
He was diligent about it after I brought it up
Marriage been challenging the last couple years. The last few weeks have been positive, had a nice date and quality time together Friday.
I told him I wanted to have me time this morning, and then family time in afternoon.

So you went on a date Friday, and you wanted three things today- card, you time, family time. Well you’re crying in the bathroom by yourself so that’s how you’re choosing to spend your me time.

[Anonymous]

OP are you always a drama llama?