Dealbreaker: students required to live on campus for 3 or even 4 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

Nanny state? . How many decades of adulthood, bill paying, trash taking do each of us need to meet your approval. You are ridiculous trying to imply 2 extra years of dorm life will stop a person from achieving adulthood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a college like this and it really fosters a sense of community. It also felt safer because the social life was centralized on campus so not a lot of driving/drunk driving. There was enough of a variety of dorms that most people weren't stuck with a roommate beyond freshman or sophomore year. Rooms were blocked in groups starting in the sophomore housing lottery so you can always live with friends in on-campus suites, apartments, or even a string of traditional single rooms.

You are an idoit if you think this had anything to do with less alcohol college students. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

Nanny state? . How many decades of adulthood, bill paying, trash taking do each of us need to meet your approval. You are ridiculous trying to imply 2 extra years of dorm life will stop a person from achieving adulthood.

+1

[Anonymous]

Sounds like OP needs a drink (maybe more than one). Why are you so outraged? If you don't like it, don't attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is mostly small private schools that have this requirement, especially LACs and especially if they are in more rural areas where there wouldn't really be any good options for students to live off campus. If this is a deal breaker for your kid, look at state schools or bigger private schools.

The Ivies have them as well.

Basically, the highly ranked schools require on campus living three or four years. The large state schools do not.

[Anonymous]

I used to want 2-3 years on campus but with covid in the mix, I would prefer they live off campus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to want 2-3 years on campus but with covid in the mix, I would prefer they live off campus.

Much safer where everyone is on campus and in a bubble. Those schools very successfully stayed open last year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to imagine a parent getting all twisted up because her kid might not be able to get a cat or drink beer in his or her room senior year. Is this really a decision point, OP? Seriously?

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university. Plenty of large state universities don't care what you do.

Same here. My college was small and everyone lived on campus - all four years. I think you had the option to move off for senior year, but almost no one did. Why? Because the vast majority of students stayed on campus and that's where everything happened. My own kids went to large universities where they were only required to live on campus freshman year, and then most moved off by sophomore year. Personally, I think they're missing out on a campus feel, but they don't know what they don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:23 year olds are typically not in college.
Not sure what schools have curfews. I went to a SLAC that had on-campus housing for all 4 years. It was fabulous. No curfew. Juniors and seniors had really nice rooms. Or they had suites with friends. No worry about rent.

You’re making an issue out of nothing.

OP here. My kid will be 22 years and 11 months old assuming he graduates in 4 years. He's not at all atypical for males in the class of '22.

Yeah, because you redshirted him!

DP. Get over yourself. Plenty of kids start late for a variety of reasons, many of them developmental. This is not the thread for your stupid "red shirt" rants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

Yes, because those things are so very hard to learn how to do when you're 22/23 rather than 20/21. You sound nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

Then you are a nutjob. There is no curfew. Juniors and seniors can get singles if you want. You still take the trash out. In an apartment you often do not pay utility bills except cable depending on what part of the country; you never never take out the garbage on a given night in an apartment, and you do not shovel snow, you still grocery shop for the dorms which often have full kitchens in newer dorms so you do cook. This is not a nanny state. At my undergrad senior housing was fantastic. Did not slow down me entering the real world.

+100
And after I graduated from college, I (gasp!) lived at home for a year to save money while I worked - then moved into a group house with friends where we - get this - paid our utility bills, took the garbage out, shoveled snow, were good neighbors, grocery shopped, cooked, etc. And our adult development wasn't stunted at all because we had lived on campus for four years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this OP, it was great and fostered campus community.

If your dc doesn't want to do that, they can attend another university.

No kidding, really?

You say foster community, I say perpetuates the nanny state and delays growth in life skills like paying utility bills, taking out the garbage on the right night, shoveling snow to be a good neighbor, grocery shopping, cooking, and I can go on like this all day

Yes, because those things are so very hard to learn how to do when you're 22/23 rather than 20/21. You sound nuts.

Also, I think it’s stupid to move away from home
To go to college and then live out in town some where to attend the college. I’d rather have my kid just live at home. I don’t get the desire to live off campus. I loved on campus in the early 80s and it felt like I was actually in college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. I went to a large state school and couldn't imagine living on campus after sophomore year.

So...apply to schools where one can do that. My DC wants a school with little to no Greek life. I didn't come on here and post "DC's #s 1 and 3 schools have frats. Can you imagine that? Ridiculous." Why not - because DC knew not to include such schools on the list even if there were other great qualities.

FWIW, a lot of LACs have these rules and have for a long time. The LAC I attended in the Midwest changed the "seniors can live where they want" to "50 seniors who win the lottery can live where they want." Why? They lose money when kids live on off campus. End of story.

My DC was the same way - wanted no/very minimal Greek life. So we simply looked for schools that fit that criteria and didn't sulk and throw a fit that many schools do have Greek life. OP sounds like a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is mostly small private schools that have this requirement, especially LACs and especially if they are in more rural areas where there wouldn't really be any good options for students to live off campus. If this is a deal breaker for your kid, look at state schools or bigger private schools.

The Ivies have them as well.

Basically, the highly ranked schools require on campus living three or four years. The large state schools do not.

A number of big state U’s without residential mandates are ranked higher than many of the precious little LACs you’re undoubtedly thinking about. UCLA > Hamilton.