Cannot pick between these two names for daughter

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Anonymous wrote:Both are super popular. DH wanted to name our baby Sophia and I wanted a different name. When we asked opinions of the nurses at the hospital, everyone basically said, “Not another Sophia!”. We went with my choice with Sophia as a middle name.

During the big Ava fad 15 years ago, some poor woman told my grandmother that her baby’s name was Ava and my grandmother said, “well of course it is”.

She is my hero

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Anonymous wrote:Sophie is overused.

So is charlotte.

Why don't people say this about boys names? Everyone I Greg up with was named Matt or Ryan. Who cares.

I care. The Ryan-explosion was ridiculous about 20 years ago especially in my Jewish school.

Personally, I do an internal eye roll when someone tells me their child’s name and it’s ridiculously popular.

You need to take a hard look at why you care so much about what other people name their kids. Seriously, what a nasty way to go though life. Find some inner happiness and you might not be such a negative hag.

Oh you can learn to stop being a sheep and actually think about your child’s name. If you think I’m the only one who hears “”Sophia” and doesn’t think, “”yeah, you’re that type”, you are dead wrong.

I assure you, no one but you is thinking anyone is a sheep for naming a girl a pretty, currently popular name. This is a very modern, dare I say very you, problem when you consider that for decades the most popular girls name was Mary and I don’t think our foremothers were worried that their Mary would meet someone and their name would make that person think their parents were “a type”. New hobby time for you.

DP. You’re sooooo wrong. Objectively wrong.

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Wait, Sophie isn’t the female version of Sophocles?

This made me smile...my oldest is Sophie, and her dad called her Sophocles all the time.

OP, I like both names!

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Is this some kind of personality disorder? These people who are obsessed with the idea that every baby must get a unique, rare name? That if your child shares a name with other children it means you have ruined your child’s life. Although honestly, many of these comments aren’t even about the baby. It’s more like you’re all mad because OP and people like her have failed to entertain you or interest you with their name choices. Why is that important? If you don’t hear a novel baby name every day, you’re mad? I do not get it.

I can’t figure out another explanation for why there are 8 pages of comments berating OP for wanting to use one of two popular (and pretty!) baby names, when one of the first things OP said was “I know they are popular.”

Seriously, she knows. She doesn’t care— these are the names she likes. Do you honestly think she or her child would be better off if she picked some name that she didn’t feel connected to or didn’t like as well? Think this through. You are all being insane. Stop trying to shove your values onto someone who doesn’t share them, and maybe take a minute to ask yourself why “giving babies original names” is so important to you. I think a lot of you need therapy because this is honestly weird.

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Agree with PP. I don’t love super popular names but the OP doesn’t mind and there’s nothing wrong with that. Beats naming her kid something made up or ~KrEaTyVe~

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Heather redux.
Charlotte has more class.
Sophie is a nickname in itself. It’s Sophia.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP. I don’t love super popular names but the OP doesn’t mind and there’s nothing wrong with that. Beats naming her kid something made up or ~KrEaTyVe~

+1000 I would never judge someone for naming their kid something classic but popular. I would judge them for some weird made up name or something like "Whilloubghy, it's a family name" just to be "unique". You're making them name all about YOU. Your kid doesn't want to go through life with a weird name. Ask me how I know.

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Anonymous wrote:Heather redux.
Charlotte has more class.
Sophie is a nickname in itself. It’s Sophia.

Sophie is the French version and is a stand-alone name. Do you also feel Christine is a nickname for Christina, Isabel(le) is a nickname for Isabella, and Anne is a nickname for Anna?

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Anonymous wrote:Is this some kind of personality disorder? These people who are obsessed with the idea that every baby must get a unique, rare name? That if your child shares a name with other children it means you have ruined your child’s life. Although honestly, many of these comments aren’t even about the baby. It’s more like you’re all mad because OP and people like her have failed to entertain you or interest you with their name choices. Why is that important? If you don’t hear a novel baby name every day, you’re mad? I do not get it.

I can’t figure out another explanation for why there are 8 pages of comments berating OP for wanting to use one of two popular (and pretty!) baby names, when one of the first things OP said was “I know they are popular.”

Seriously, she knows. She doesn’t care— these are the names she likes. Do you honestly think she or her child would be better off if she picked some name that she didn’t feel connected to or didn’t like as well? Think this through. You are all being insane. Stop trying to shove your values onto someone who doesn’t share them, and maybe take a minute to ask yourself why “giving babies original names” is so important to you. I think a lot of you need therapy because this is honestly weird.

People are just cautioning OP not to saddle her daughter with a fad name. And that’s all Sophia and Charlotte are - names that are current fad. No is is saying name her something made up or unique - just not a name where there will be millions with her first name in her generation.

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Why is it bad to be identifiable by generation?

As someone whose name is “outside” the popularity of it by about 30-40 years, it’s always been a little strange but never really bothered me.

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Both names are lovely, strong feminine names. You can’t go wrong with either, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this some kind of personality disorder? These people who are obsessed with the idea that every baby must get a unique, rare name? That if your child shares a name with other children it means you have ruined your child’s life. Although honestly, many of these comments aren’t even about the baby. It’s more like you’re all mad because OP and people like her have failed to entertain you or interest you with their name choices. Why is that important? If you don’t hear a novel baby name every day, you’re mad? I do not get it.

I can’t figure out another explanation for why there are 8 pages of comments berating OP for wanting to use one of two popular (and pretty!) baby names, when one of the first things OP said was “I know they are popular.”

Seriously, she knows. She doesn’t care— these are the names she likes. Do you honestly think she or her child would be better off if she picked some name that she didn’t feel connected to or didn’t like as well? Think this through. You are all being insane. Stop trying to shove your values onto someone who doesn’t share them, and maybe take a minute to ask yourself why “giving babies original names” is so important to you. I think a lot of you need therapy because this is honestly weird.

People are just cautioning OP not to saddle her daughter with a fad name. And that’s all Sophia and Charlotte are - names that are current fad. No is is saying name her something made up or unique - just not a name where there will be millions with her first name in her generation.

Both of these names have been within the top 100 or 200 names for over 100 years. That's the opposite of a fad. A baby Charlotte or Sophie is likely to run into children with her name, as well as adults and older relatives. She is likely to encounter children with her name even once she is an adult. This is the experience of millions of people all over the world every day. People are very into using different names right now. One could argue that that is the trend. Giving your kid one of these names is literally never trendy.

If OP was thinking about naming her child after a Game of Thrones character, maybe I get the "concern". But she's not. These are classic names that have been popular in English-speaking countries for over a century (probably longer, but I could only look them up on the SSA site going back to 1900). Cautioning someone against naming their kid Charlotte or Sophie is deranged.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this some kind of personality disorder? These people who are obsessed with the idea that every baby must get a unique, rare name? That if your child shares a name with other children it means you have ruined your child’s life. Although honestly, many of these comments aren’t even about the baby. It’s more like you’re all mad because OP and people like her have failed to entertain you or interest you with their name choices. Why is that important? If you don’t hear a novel baby name every day, you’re mad? I do not get it.

I can’t figure out another explanation for why there are 8 pages of comments berating OP for wanting to use one of two popular (and pretty!) baby names, when one of the first things OP said was “I know they are popular.”

Seriously, she knows. She doesn’t care— these are the names she likes. Do you honestly think she or her child would be better off if she picked some name that she didn’t feel connected to or didn’t like as well? Think this through. You are all being insane. Stop trying to shove your values onto someone who doesn’t share them, and maybe take a minute to ask yourself why “giving babies original names” is so important to you. I think a lot of you need therapy because this is honestly weird.

People are just cautioning OP not to saddle her daughter with a fad name. And that’s all Sophia and Charlotte are - names that are current fad. No is is saying name her something made up or unique - just not a name where there will be millions with her first name in her generation.

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I think this started when someone got snippy about names that weren’t popular. It was noted that there were plenty of normal names that aren’t top 20. I don’t think most of us were telling her not to use the names she likes, just arguing with other posters.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't have to pick a name beforehand-- I always wanted to meet the baby first so we went with a shortlist

this is what we did, as well. Took a list of 2-3 names with us and decided at the hospital.

and I also agree that there really is no difference to me on these names. Both traditional. And super popular.

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