Cannot pick between these two names for daughter

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I had the multiple people with my name thing follow me into the first couple jobs after college. It was just as annoying then as it was as a child/teen.

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Anonymous wrote:Sophie is overused.

So is charlotte.

Why don't people say this about boys names? Everyone I Greg up with was named Matt or Ryan. Who cares.

I care. The Ryan-explosion was ridiculous about 20 years ago especially in my Jewish school.

Personally, I do an internal eye roll when someone tells me their child’s name and it’s ridiculously popular.

You need to take a hard look at why you care so much about what other people name their kids. Seriously, what a nasty way to go though life. Find some inner happiness and you might not be such a negative hag.

This. I had some inkling that people like PP existed before I started reading DCUM because I had encountered the occasional person who seemed to have something negative to say about every baby name. But once I started coming on this site, where they can unleash anonymously with zero social consequences? Whew. A lot of just intense and unnecessary judgment and insecurity. And it's very telling that their ire is directed at parents (almost always women) with new babies. These same people don't walk around talking about how dumb other adults' names are, for instance. I have a "ridiculously popular" name and it has never once caused a problem for me as an adult (it was annoying when I was a kid). People like PP don't go to dinner parties and say "Can you believe my new coworker is named AMANDA? Are you kidding! That was a top ten name the year she was born! What were her parents thinking? And she wants to go by "Mandy". Ugh, what a dumb nickname, I hate it." Can you imagine???

Nope it's just baby names they want to harsh on all the time. I think it has to do with competitive jealousy around having kids and a desire to position themselves as a superior parent because they chose the correct name for their kid. It's extremely weird. And I didn't even give my kid a popular name! But it's bizarre to see people acting like naming your kid Ryan or Charlotte is some kind of social crime. Get a grip. There is nothing wrong with giving your kid a common name, human beings have been doing it since the beginning of time.

Mandy is a dumb nickname. So is Vicky. I’ve disliked every person I ever met with those names. Strangely those who went by Amanda and Victoria were just fine.

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I don’t think less of parents who use a popular name, but I will admit to the “another one?” reaction internally. So many names, and people in certain peer groups all land on the same ones.

Our family has 3 Audreys. All from different branches of the family tree.

It took until baby #9 on my dad’s side (between me and my cousins) until someone used Isabelle. That was interesting, since it seemed like every other friend of mine on Facebook had one (hs friends, college friends, etc)

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Charlotte

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I went far down SSA list and beyond for our names. I tried to find names below #500.

My teen has a name that hasn’t been in the top 1000 for years. My younger daughter’s name was in the 700s when she was named. Neither has had another in their school classes. The second one had another in her school (higher grade) AND another (older than her) at her dance studio-oddly, I think the others were both Hispanic. The teen has only run across one other child with her name, also through dance, a much younger Hispanic girl.

[Anonymous]

Didn't read any of the posts but they are both great names. Decide once you see the baby. That's what we ended up doing--once we saw our DS it was pretty clear which name fit him -not sure why.

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Anonymous wrote:I went far down SSA list and beyond for our names. I tried to find names below #500.

My teen has a name that hasn’t been in the top 1000 for years. My younger daughter’s name was in the 700s when she was named. Neither has had another in their school classes. The second one had another in her school (higher grade) AND another (older than her) at her dance studio-oddly, I think the others were both Hispanic. The teen has only run across one other child with her name, also through dance, a much younger Hispanic girl.

Huh, so you’re saying that you went out of your way to pick out names that are less popular and your kids still wound up in school and events with kids with the same name? Fascinating. It’s almost like... it doesn’t matter that much? That’s a great point!

Sophie. I like Charlotte too but as a general matter I prefer names that are not the feminine version of a popular male name. I don’t know why that annoys me but it does— Charlotte, Georgia, Maxine, we even met a Theodora recently that was named after a male relative. I don’t know. Men put their names on everything.

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Anonymous wrote:I went far down SSA list and beyond for our names. I tried to find names below #500.

My teen has a name that hasn’t been in the top 1000 for years. My younger daughter’s name was in the 700s when she was named. Neither has had another in their school classes. The second one had another in her school (higher grade) AND another (older than her) at her dance studio-oddly, I think the others were both Hispanic. The teen has only run across one other child with her name, also through dance, a much younger Hispanic girl.

Huh, so you’re saying that you went out of your way to pick out names that are less popular and your kids still wound up in school and events with kids with the same name? Fascinating. It’s almost like... it doesn’t matter that much? That’s a great point!

Sophie. I like Charlotte too but as a general matter I prefer names that are not the feminine version of a popular male name. I don’t know why that annoys me but it does— Charlotte, Georgia, Maxine, we even met a Theodora recently that was named after a male relative. I don’t know. Men put their names on everything.

Wait, Sophie isn’t the female version of Sophocles?

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Anonymous wrote:Sophie is overused.

Lol like Charlotte isn’t?

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Anonymous wrote:Both are super popular. DH wanted to name our baby Sophia and I wanted a different name. When we asked opinions of the nurses at the hospital, everyone basically said, “Not another Sophia!”. We went with my choice with Sophia as a middle name.

During the big Ava fad 15 years ago, some poor woman told my grandmother that her baby’s name was Ava and my grandmother said, “well of course it is”.

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Anonymous wrote:Both are super popular. DH wanted to name our baby Sophia and I wanted a different name. When we asked opinions of the nurses at the hospital, everyone basically said, “Not another Sophia!”. We went with my choice with Sophia as a middle name.

During the big Ava fad 15 years ago, some poor woman told my grandmother that her baby’s name was Ava and my grandmother said, “well of course it is”.

She is my hero

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I didn’t say it doesn’t matter. It’s a bit more of a novelty when it happens out in the world. Those are honestly the only others with my children’s names I have ever heard/read about.

But your chances of running into another are much bigger with the two names in the OP. If that doesn’t matter to you, that’s fine. Your risk of having multiple children with the same name in a class is much higher, especially in your own SES groups.

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Anonymous wrote:Sophie is overused.

So is charlotte.

Why don't people say this about boys names? Everyone I Greg up with was named Matt or Ryan. Who cares.

I care. The Ryan-explosion was ridiculous about 20 years ago especially in my Jewish school.

Personally, I do an internal eye roll when someone tells me their child’s name and it’s ridiculously popular.

You need to take a hard look at why you care so much about what other people name their kids. Seriously, what a nasty way to go though life. Find some inner happiness and you might not be such a negative hag.

Oh you can learn to stop being a sheep and actually think about your child’s name. If you think I’m the only one who hears “”Sophia” and doesn’t think, “”yeah, you’re that type”, you are dead wrong.

I assure you, no one but you is thinking anyone is a sheep for naming a girl a pretty, currently popular name. This is a very modern, dare I say very you, problem when you consider that for decades the most popular girls name was Mary and I don’t think our foremothers were worried that their Mary would meet someone and their name would make that person think their parents were “a type”. New hobby time for you.

[Anonymous]

I really dislike super popular names. Why with so many names to choose from do you have to choose the most trendy?

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Anonymous wrote:Both are super popular. DH wanted to name our baby Sophia and I wanted a different name. When we asked opinions of the nurses at the hospital, everyone basically said, “Not another Sophia!”. We went with my choice with Sophia as a middle name.

During the big Ava fad 15 years ago, some poor woman told my grandmother that her baby’s name was Ava and my grandmother said, “well of course it is”.

She is my hero

+1.