Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't really care anymore. I vented and now I feel OK.

And I still feel like you're childish and jealous. Whew! I vented about it, and now I feel better.

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Dear not funny PP above, I suspect you’re the one that drives everyone batsh1t when you overdo it on the margaritas. All the slights dissected, all the time.

NP. Huh?

You’re being hard on OP. Which points to you being an unrelenting complainer. And my guess is that it’s intense poor me to the exhaustion of your friends when you’re drunk. That’s why you’re poking the op with a stick even after she’s resolved her feelings.

OK, I'm the one you're responding to, and I just...don't see what margaritas has to do with any of this. Are you imbibing some right now?

No. And I understand you don’t get it. You don’t need to. Tah!

I hope you feel better soon. Hugs!

I’m fine. Glad you could “vent”. Weirdo n

Get well soon.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't really care anymore. I vented and now I feel OK.

And I still feel like you're childish and jealous. Whew! I vented about it, and now I feel better.

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Dear not funny PP above, I suspect you’re the one that drives everyone batsh1t when you overdo it on the margaritas. All the slights dissected, all the time.

NP. Huh?

You’re being hard on OP. Which points to you being an unrelenting complainer. And my guess is that it’s intense poor me to the exhaustion of your friends when you’re drunk. That’s why you’re poking the op with a stick even after she’s resolved her feelings.

OK, I'm the one you're responding to, and I just...don't see what margaritas has to do with any of this. Are you imbibing some right now?

No. And I understand you don’t get it. You don’t need to. Tah!

I hope you feel better soon. Hugs!

I’m fine. Glad you could “vent”. Weirdo n

Get well soon.

Weak sauce. Truly. You’re just a bully and I don’t like it. That’s why I was responding. I’m fine but you trash this woman because she had a moment of angst and went online for relief instead of blowing up with her sister. Just go ahead and respond to this and say something (lame, but) catty and have a last word. I really don’t care

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I’d be pissed too. Seems heartless. My sister would never do this and I would never do this to her. She could easily get married somewhere else. Unless you’re from a small town and this is the only viable venue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Also her wedding decor pinterest board is a copycat of mine.

How am I not supposed to be annoyed?

How? You grow up and act like an adult not a 14 year old. How old are you?

I swear this board has been taken over by some teenagers with bad manners and worse attitudes.

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Op I get that you are frustrated, you wanted to have your wedding at the venue and she's taken over that dream.

Let the sibling rivalry go. It really isn't that great in adulthood to keep having that rivalry. I know its her doing it but if you let it go, drop the rope, perhaps you may find a great adult relationship with her down the track.

Your sister isn't doing her own thing, she isn't being her own person, really doesn't sound like much fun to be her. The two of you have issues you need to let go of.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't really care anymore. I vented and now I feel OK.

And I still feel like you're childish and jealous. Whew! I vented about it, and now I feel better.

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Dear not funny PP above, I suspect you’re the one that drives everyone batsh1t when you overdo it on the margaritas. All the slights dissected, all the time.

NP. Huh?

You’re being hard on OP. Which points to you being an unrelenting complainer. And my guess is that it’s intense poor me to the exhaustion of your friends when you’re drunk. That’s why you’re poking the op with a stick even after she’s resolved her feelings.

OK, I'm the one you're responding to, and I just...don't see what margaritas has to do with any of this. Are you imbibing some right now?

No. And I understand you don’t get it. You don’t need to. Tah!

I hope you feel better soon. Hugs!

I’m fine. Glad you could “vent”. Weirdo n

Get well soon.

Weak sauce. Truly. You’re just a bully and I don’t like it. That’s why I was responding. I’m fine but you trash this woman because she had a moment of angst and went online for relief instead of blowing up with her sister. Just go ahead and respond to this and say something (lame, but) catty and have a last word. I really don’t care

Clearly, you do.

I have every right to post my opinion on a chat board. I'm sorry you can't handle that people see things differently than you do.

What's funny is, I didn't even post the "vent" comment you were so offended by. I was the one who clearly identified as "NP" (that means NEW POSTER), and said "huh?" Because your margarita comment makes zero sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I get that you are frustrated, you wanted to have your wedding at the venue and she's taken over that dream.

Let the sibling rivalry go. It really isn't that great in adulthood to keep having that rivalry. I know its her doing it but if you let it go, drop the rope, perhaps you may find a great adult relationship with her down the track.

Your sister isn't doing her own thing, she isn't being her own person, really doesn't sound like much fun to be her. The two of you have issues you need to let go of.

+1

Great advice here, OP!

[Anonymous]

She's probably defined taste and success by you, so she assumed that if this venue was what you wanted, it was definitely the best venue, and went for it. I doubt she realizes how hurt you are.

[Anonymous]

Or maybe your sister just coincidentally ALSO dreamed of getting married there and this has nothing to do with you...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or maybe your sister just coincidentally ALSO dreamed of getting married there and this has nothing to do with you...

Right? Especially if it is a venue known for weddings. Like, there is an historic old theater in my hometown. It is absolutely gorgeous, and has a ballroom on the top floor. It's basically known for weddings, proms and galas.

So when my sister announced she was going to have her reception there, I wasn't like, "Ohhhh nooo you're ruining my dreammmm," because why wouldn't she? It's the most popular wedding venue for several counties.

All this is like someone in this area being mad that someone booked the Hay-Adams or something.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Also her wedding decor pinterest board is a copycat of mine.

How am I not supposed to be annoyed?

She likes your taste!

She wants to minimize effort since you've already done the research.

Do you have other issues with her? b/c if this is an isolated incident I'd think you're incredibly childish and immature.

OP here. I feel like my sister simultaneously tries to one-up me and also copy me at the same time. Its not like she actually compliments me or gives me credit. She is like my shadow I can't get rid of.

I'm sorry OP. You had to know you'd get flamed for this, right? And I agree you can't publicly really say any of this. But I think I"d feel like you do, secretly, inside.

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OP has left the building.

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OP here. I am resentful and hurt because I never did get my "dream" wedding. Husband and I were not making a lot of money and neither of our families could afford to help us. I compromised as I wanted to marry my husband and years later we are happy and making more money than we could ever have dreamed. I still am sore about not having a "dream wedding" especially as I watch other people and now my own sister get to do the same.

I don't even care about her dream wedding. I am just hurt that she would get the same venue I had specifically dreamt of and had an attachment to. It is an old historic house and those kinds of things are not even her "thing." They were talking of booking their wedding at a fancy hotel... and now they switched to this venue.

She also has a history of seemingly one-upping me. Or that is how it has always felt to me. We do not have the best relationship. If I do x she'll need to to x but bigger and better.

But ugh. What can I do, I'll show up and try to have a nice time.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am resentful and hurt because I never did get my "dream" wedding. Husband and I were not making a lot of money and neither of our families could afford to help us. I compromised as I wanted to marry my husband and years later we are happy and making more money than we could ever have dreamed. I still am sore about not having a "dream wedding" especially as I watch other people and now my own sister get to do the same.

I don't even care about her dream wedding. I am just hurt that she would get the same venue I had specifically dreamt of and had an attachment to. It is an old historic house and those kinds of things are not even her "thing." They were talking of booking their wedding at a fancy hotel... and now they switched to this venue.

She also has a history of seemingly one-upping me. Or that is how it has always felt to me. We do not have the best relationship. If I do x she'll need to to x but bigger and better.

But ugh. What can I do, I'll show up and try to have a nice time.

Get over yourself. Maybe she wasn't able to book a hotel venue because of lack of availability, or pandemic restrictions, or whatever. Or maybe she simply watched "Bridgerton," wanted a ye olde house vibe, and remembered that lovely house you mentioned that one time.

You know, the one that...cranks out weddings? Because it's a popular wedding venue?

You didn't invent this place. Like, you didn't visit some historic house and get the genius idea that you could have your wedding there. It's a known wedding venue.

I hope she has a fabulous day without a sourpuss sister trying to ruin everything.

And, also? NO ONE OWES YOU A WEDDING. DH and I paid for our weddings. Like grown-ups. Because it's not the 1800s, and people don't get married at 19 anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am resentful and hurt because I never did get my "dream" wedding. Husband and I were not making a lot of money and neither of our families could afford to help us. I compromised as I wanted to marry my husband and years later we are happy and making more money than we could ever have dreamed. I still am sore about not having a "dream wedding" especially as I watch other people and now my own sister get to do the same.

I don't even care about her dream wedding. I am just hurt that she would get the same venue I had specifically dreamt of and had an attachment to. It is an old historic house and those kinds of things are not even her "thing." They were talking of booking their wedding at a fancy hotel... and now they switched to this venue.

She also has a history of seemingly one-upping me. Or that is how it has always felt to me. We do not have the best relationship. If I do x she'll need to to x but bigger and better.

But ugh. What can I do, I'll show up and try to have a nice time.

Get over yourself. Maybe she wasn't able to book a hotel venue because of lack of availability, or pandemic restrictions, or whatever. Or maybe she simply watched "Bridgerton," wanted a ye olde house vibe, and remembered that lovely house you mentioned that one time.

You know, the one that...cranks out weddings? Because it's a popular wedding venue?

You didn't invent this place. Like, you didn't visit some historic house and get the genius idea that you could have your wedding there. It's a known wedding venue.

I hope she has a fabulous day without a sourpuss sister trying to ruin everything.

And, also? NO ONE OWES YOU A WEDDING. DH and I paid for our weddings. Like grown-ups. Because it's not the 1800s, and people don't get married at 19 anymore.

OP here. Sure lady. DH and I paid for our own wedding at 26-27. My sister will be 31 when married and the entire production is funded by her rich in laws. All she has to do is show up.