Men want sex for Father’s Day? How many women want sex for Mother’s Day?

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Anonymous wrote: I put in a very clear request for sex on Mother’s Day. Didn’t get it. Still haven’t. Not all men…

Actually, that’s incorrect. I bought myself a Lelo Sona. Happy Mother’s Day to me!

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Anonymous wrote:What I want to know is... why on Mother’s Day, was there a thread about how husbands disappointed their wives on their Mother’s Day (by not doing enough), but on Father’s Day, wives are scoffing about what a man “really” wants?

Shhh. They don't want to hear that. They like their hypocrisy on the DL.

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Anonymous wrote:Quid pro quo sex grosses me out.

Then don't think of it that way. Think of it as reliving the making of your children in celebration of fathers day. Or think of it as your fantasy night with Antonio Banderas. We care not as long as it happens and you at least appear into it.

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Father's Day is a Father's Day not a husband's day or birthday. So why the sex is in the talks?

How did he get to be a father? You wouldn't be celebrating him if his swimmers didn't reach the finish line. Think of it like a re-enactment.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. in a typical I am high drive she is low drive, what happened to the sex and why is my wife never in the mood anymore type marriage. Yes, what I want more than anything for father's day, birthday, and any holiday is special lingerie and sex night. My wife is SAHM, there isn't anything I can't realistically afford and it's the one gift I crave from her.

It didn't happen last night but she also thinks it's weird that is a father's day thing.

Your wife is a normal woman being a normal woman and struggling with monogamy more than you are. Long term relationships are hard on desire, but especially hard on FEMALE desire—there are plenty of data on this. We need to revisit the stale AF and inherently sexist idea that women aren’t having sex because they don’t like sex. Data show it’s that they bore of partnered sex more quickly than men do. In the aggregate, they like sex, just not the sex they’re having. But this fact runs so contrary to our notion of who men and women are that we have a hard time taking it in.

Do you say this in your sleep too? Does think help you justify your cuck lifestyle in your head. Repeating it at every opportunity in here isnt helping any of us.

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Anonymous wrote:The BIG O is from PIV. You know it when you have it.

Orgasm hierarchy: We fetishize woman having an orgasm from intercourse alone but only 4% of women can orgams that way OKAY??!!!

Prioritizing/privileging male pleasure (men get off from intercourse with little problem) and undervaluing female pleasure (need external/clit stil) is at the heart of the orgasm gap.

I’m a woman PP you responded to. The 96% of women that don’t experience that - I used to be in that camp. I’m not anymore. Tell me how? Magic? A man? No. It was me and my insistence to own my body, like mindfulness but for sex, finding out what I physically like with toys. And no distraction of another person. That’s how I first experienced it. Once I knew what got me there, I knew how to get it, the ball was in my court and I could cal the shots. Full stop.

It’s not that there aren’t valid reasons and true circumstances where women cannot experience orgasm from pIV. Or pIA. Or even Cl. I know there are serious complications and I’m not making light of that. I understand also the changes we experience through trauma, childbearing, and those same differences are gifts.

I think that as women, a lot of us aren’t comfortable, secure and confident enough in our bodies to fully relax and experience the physiological release that’s nexessary to have a big O from PIV. We leave it too much about emotions, are all up in our heads, and are way too tense. Each of our brains have been programmed with mixed experiences of joy,trauma, or crappy sex and we just assume that’s it. But 96% is A LOT. That’s most women! Just because 96% of slaves were illiterate ar one point doesn’t mean it’s dumb to raise your hand and try to read, change the status qou. And you can reprogram your brain. Don’t you think its possible that maybe we were created equal but differen, but an act that creates life itself is one both mother and father experience orgasm from? Even together? Imagine the bonding with that. And that just maybe we can come more than one way and enjoy sex as much as men? There is data out there for any argument you want to make. You just have to have the resources to prove it. Everything else is evolving, why not that.

Like I said, I couldn’t have a big O most of my life. I think women get their drive in 40s because they stop GAF and try to get theirs for once, and enjoy it. Men do it all the time, it’s much easier for them because it’s not solely emotional and they partition their brains differently. It’s as relaxing as a foot rub or a scalp massage.

I do NOT undervalue female pleasure. I’m a huge advocate for it, but change starts with us knowing our bodies. Then you can teach the man what you want. Or discover it together. But the ideA that it’s men who own all the responsibility for good sex and making a woman come is a hat had me missing out on good sex for so long. Why leave your physical satisfaction in another person’s hands completely?

Bravo. Well said. The 96% is bunk. It's definitely below 50% and likely below 40% but above 20% and climbing. As we are leaving roles in the past and woman are becoming more aggressive and more confident, numbers are climbing. Men do get a little credit as they are becoming less selfish and more interested in a woman's pleasure as opposed to just their own.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and can't understand why it's hard to understand. You think a man would rather have a watch or some ugly tie than have sex? You can't be serious.

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I don’t buy that men would rather have sex (or at least sex with their wives) than “stuff.” If this was true, more men would be looking for part time, less stressful work so they could be more available for sex. But they don’t. Other things are more important.

Umm to have sex with the type of woman I want to have sex with you need to be able to provide for her, and survive so that you can be around to have more sex.

I would definitely rather have sex than get stuff, any day. I can go buy stuff on my own, no woman needed. I need a woman to have sex with.

So your wife does not work?

Because 42% of women are breadwinners and 22% cobreadwinners.

42% of married women are the breadwinners? Doesn't correspond with my life or anyone I know.

It’s the fact: https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/12/17/1-the-american-family-today/#mothers-moving-into-the-workforce

But likely in Law/Finance/Tech where sexist bro culture is still king, you won’t see as many women.

I know at my technical agency many women are the higher earning spouse and involved mom. I’m sure as you move down socioeconomic ladder, where the wife is pink color say a nurse or something, she will likely out earn many blue color husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:Sex for Father's Day is weird to me, isn't it about kids celebrating yheit2 parents (or the other parent/spouse making an effort but pretending it's "from" the kid)?

It's about the kids and dad. Not dad's sexual needs or what he thinks he's entitled to from his wife.

are you seriously saying a husband, under normal circumstances, isn't entitled to have sex with his wife?

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Anonymous wrote:Sex for Father's Day is weird to me, isn't it about kids celebrating yheit2 parents (or the other parent/spouse making an effort but pretending it's "from" the kid)?

It's about the kids and dad. Not dad's sexual needs or what he thinks he's entitled to from his wife.

Your a peach. Thank gog he has that woman from his office.

You might consider getting one of those. They’re aces for grammar and punctuation, spelling too.

LOL

Right who's gog?? I'm pretty sure Father's Day is about the children celebrating their dad. Not a sex holiday last I heard!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and can't understand why it's hard to understand. You think a man would rather have a watch or some ugly tie than have sex? You can't be serious.

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I don’t buy that men would rather have sex (or at least sex with their wives) than “stuff.” If this was true, more men would be looking for part time, less stressful work so they could be more available for sex. But they don’t. Other things are more important.

Umm to have sex with the type of woman I want to have sex with you need to be able to provide for her, and survive so that you can be around to have more sex.

I would definitely rather have sex than get stuff, any day. I can go buy stuff on my own, no woman needed. I need a woman to have sex with.

So your wife does not work?

Because 42% of women are breadwinners and 22% cobreadwinners.

42% of married women are the breadwinners? Doesn't correspond with my life or anyone I know.

It’s the fact: https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/12/17/1-the-american-family-today/#mothers-moving-into-the-workforce

Sorry, you didn't read the article correctly. 42% of married women are NOT breadwinners.

Today, 40% of families with children under 18 at home include mothers who earn the majority of the family income. This share is up from 11% in 1960 and 34% in 2000. The bulk of these breadwinner moms—8.3 million—are either unmarried or are married and living apart from their spouse. The remaining 4.9 million, who are married and living with their spouse, earn more than their husbands.

42% of married women are not breadwinners. Most of the breadwinner women are single/divorced. Note where it says "For white mothers, 38% are the primary breadwinners—20% are unmarried moms, and 18% are married and have income higher than that of their spouses." So really it's 18% for married white women and even lower for married black or Hispanic women.

[Anonymous]

All wives who did nothing sexual on Father's day failed, including my own wife

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I win!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:All wives who did nothing sexual on Father's day failed, including my own wife

If my husband had initiated I would have been up for it but he didn’t which surprised me as Sunday night sex is pretty normal for us. We are staying at a nice hotel tonight and since I love hotel sex I’m sure it will happen.

[Anonymous]

Why does the husband always have to tap on the shoulder and initiate? Change your attitude about initiating AMEX and he will change his attitude about initiating items on your honey-do list. I’m a wife, BTW.

[Anonymous]

LOL@ AMEX autocorrect from sex. But yes, that too. Initiate sex and you may have him initiating gifts for you on the Amex too!!